I always thought that anal sex was basically safe when you take it slow and use lube. I also heard this in many documentaries about sex where they talked about anal sex.
But now I'm scared cause I read a few horror stories where people hurt their rectum through vibrators. Now I wonder how dangerous is anal sex in general?
I mean I have watched videos online where couples had anal sex and often times the males are pretty rough and they also don't take it slow but they are moving fast and inserting their penis from all kinds of directions into the rectum and the women also seems to have some discomfort.
My question is how can such a woman who is receiving anal sex basically tell if the discomfort is normal or if it's something serious? I mean is it possible that the male basically ruptures the rectum with his penis and the woman doesn't really notice it or if she notices it then it's already too late?
I also have no idea how hard it would be to damage the rectum with a penis or lets say a flexible sex toy which isn't solid. I mean how much force would this require? Would you first of all feel pain and then be able to stop right away before the rectum would really get damaged?
I hope someone here can give me some answers.