Hi, I'm 17, male. My penis is about 7.5" long uncut, 5.5" thick. Is this considered small? *I've had this insecurity for a while, as one of my former romantic interests happened to share some things she shouldn't have, and she apparently was also laughing about my size. This just messed me up, I keep worrying that no girl will ever really like me because of my size. I know this question probably gets asked often, but I'm hoping y'all can help me with this.
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Is my penis small?
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@smolnerd Welcome to A2A
You don't indicate whether your measurements are flaccid or erect, but in either case, you are certainly not small.
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@readytogo Well I would certainly hope that those measurements were his erect size.... LOL
Anyways, you are definitely above average in both length and thickness... This girl that made fun of you was just a stupid bitch.
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@sdp LOL I agree!
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And not just a little bigger than average, but right out near the edge of the bell curve!
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@sdp @Roc Sorry for the late response. Been traveling and then got home to no internet. They were scheduling a week out for service. Back into civilization now.
I agree that 7.5" flaccid is extremely uncommon, but some guys are showers and others growers. There was so much in that post to cause one to scratch his head that I just didn't want to assume anything. If his girlfriend really thinks that he's small and she's looking for someone larger, I fear she may be in for a life of celibacy.
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Oh crap, I'm so sorry. I completely forgot about this.
@readytogo Oh, my apologies, yes those measurements are erect.
@sdp said:
@readytogo
Anyways, you are definitely above average in both length and thickness... This girl that made fun of you was just a stupid bitch.Well, I appreciate the information. Though not necessarily the derogatory comments, I still think she's a rather intelligent and nice person...
@Ineligible said:
And not just a little bigger than average, but right out near the edge of the bell curve!
Honestly, I find that rather hard to believe. Though that might just be my low self-esteem talking.
@readytogo said:
If his girlfriend really thinks that he's small and she's looking for someone larger, I fear she may be in for a life of celibacy.
She wasn't my girlfriend...Just a girl I had a crush on, she had a short crush on me as well. Things just got out of hand and she just led me on...I feel really idiotic for it as well.
Thank you all for the responses, though I do find this information a bit hard to process. I just don't feel like it's adequate, y'know?
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I'm sure it is the low self-esteem talking. It's an accomplished liar, and does its best to make everything seem inadequate, in the face of an opposite reality.
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@smolnerd In what way do you find the comments to your post less than adequate?
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@smolnerd said:
Oh crap, I'm so sorry. I completely forgot about this.
@readytogo Oh, my apologies, yes those measurements are erect.
@sdp said:
@readytogo
Anyways, you are definitely above average in both length and thickness... This girl that made fun of you was just a stupid bitch.Well, I appreciate the information. Though not necessarily the derogatory comments, I still think she's a rather intelligent and nice person...
Sorry... Anyone girl who would laugh at someones physical attributes is a "stupid bitch" in my book, especially since she was way off base. I would hope they at least have the decency to laugh to themselves and behind the back of the person if they really think it's that funny.
The same applies to any guy. Would you laugh in the face of some girl who "thought" and/or had small breasts along with esteem issues? -
@readytogo said:
@smolnerd In what way do you find the comments to your post less than adequate?
No , it's not the comments I find to be led than adequate. I still feel like my actual penis size is less than adequate. Though it's most likely due to my low self esteem and depressive nature. I'm appreciative of the comments, you all are kinder than some others I've met before.
@Ineligible said:
I'm sure it is the low self-esteem talking. It's an accomplished liar, and does its best to make everything seem inadequate, in the face of an opposite reality.
That is true...
@sdp said:
@smolnerd said:
Oh crap, I'm so sorry. I completely forgot about this.
@readytogo Oh, my apologies, yes those measurements are erect.
@sdp said:
@readytogo
Anyways, you are definitely above average in both length and thickness... This girl that made fun of you was just a stupid bitch.Well, I appreciate the information. Though not necessarily the derogatory comments, I still think she's a rather intelligent and nice person...
Sorry... Anyone girl who would laugh at someones physical attributes is a "stupid bitch" in my book, especially since she was way off base. I would hope they at least have the decency to laugh to themselves and behind the back of the person if they really think it's that funny.
The same applies to any guy. Would you laugh in the face of some girl who "thought" and/or had small breasts along with esteem issues?Eh, though I can see your points, it is still a bit uncomfortable to me. Also, she did laugh behind my back. I only found out she laughed at all because a close friend of mine was the person she told EVERYTHING to, even the secrets I wanted her to keep and even made her promise to keep. Later on after everything settled down he told me about some of the insecurities I have that she laughed about. He said she laughed about my size, and a few other things like the kinks I'm into.
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@smolnerd Nobody likes to be laughed at, especially for a reason that is not factual, like the case here. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your penis size. In fact, it is on the high side of normal. You have absolutely nothing to be concerned about, unless it is the friends you keep.
Raise your head up and repeat after me--I am normal and proud of it.
It may just be that the girl in question here is attempting to pass her insecurities to you. Don't let that happen.
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@smolnerd said:
Eh, though I can see your points, it is still a bit uncomfortable to me. Also, she did laugh behind my back. I only found out she laughed at all because a close friend of mine was the person she told EVERYTHING to, even the secrets I wanted her to keep and even made her promise to keep. Later on after everything settled down he told me about some of the insecurities I have that she laughed about. He said she laughed about my size, and a few other things like the kinks I'm into.
I don't understand how you can hold high esteem for someone who would ridicule you and betray your confidentiality.... She would be written off in my book. That's not a friend you want to keep.
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@sdp said:
@smolnerd said:
Eh, though I can see your points, it is still a bit uncomfortable to me. Also, she did laugh behind my back. I only found out she laughed at all because a close friend of mine was the person she told EVERYTHING to, even the secrets I wanted her to keep and even made her promise to keep. Later on after everything settled down he told me about some of the insecurities I have that she laughed about. He said she laughed about my size, and a few other things like the kinks I'm into.
I don't understand how you can hold high esteem for someone who would ridicule you and betray your confidentiality.... She would be written off in my book. That's not a friend you want to keep.
Because I'm still not 100% sure if she was laughing about them in a negative way, I'm still not sure if it was ridicule. And honestly, I do still have some feelings for her, I rather liked her. She isn't still my friend, to my dismay we decided it would be best if we cut ties and quit talking to each other. I wanted to apologise, and I genuinely felt all that happened was my fault, even if everyone said otherwise.
@readytogo said:
@smolnerd Nobody likes to be laughed at, especially for a reason that is not factual, like the case here. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your penis size. In fact, it is on the high side of normal. You have absolutely nothing to be concerned about, unless it is the friends you keep.
Raise your head up and repeat after me--I am normal and proud of it.
It may just be that the girl in question here is attempting to pass her insecurities to you. Don't let that happen.
That is true, but with my depressive and anxious nature, even the most insignificant things can concern me.
I'm definitely not normal, in fact, I'm pretty mentally fucked. Though I'm not ashamed of my weirdness.
Honestly, I think that it was because of how she is as a person. She's very much a people pleaser and a pushover, she doesn't want anybody to feel bad or be hurt, so she mostly just nods and agrees. I think she was just going along as to not hurt my feelings, but she wound up making things even worse in the end. I don't know if she had malicious intent, or wanted to pass her own insecurities on to me, but I hope that my theory is right.
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@smolnerd Something we haven't looked at is the person she supposedly make the comments to. A guy or another girl? It may be that the issue lies with this person, and not her.
Whichever it is, it is not you. You have no apparent fault here.
@smolnerd said "but I hope that my theory is right" And what is that theory?
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@readytogo said:
@smolnerd Something we haven't looked at is the person she supposedly make the comments to. A guy or another girl? It may be that the issue lies with this person, and not her.
Whichever it is, it is not you. You have no apparent fault here.
@smolnerd said "but I hope that my theory is right" And what is that theory?
The person she made comments to was a guy, he's known her for a lot longer than me. She used to tell everything to him.
I don't know, I did seem to cause some of the things. ;~;
My theory was:
@smolnerd said:I think she was just going along as to not hurt my feelings
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I hope this guy is not making things up or exaggerating what she said.
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@Ineligible said:
I hope this guy is not making things up or exaggerating what she said.
Usually when he's taking jabs at me or just poking fun he will exaggerate. Though he does know when to be serious and real, he'd seen first-hand how this situation really fucked with me, and I've known him long enough to know he isn't a douche like that. In fact, he kept saying "I'm sorry, ███████." and things like that. He was genuinely apologetic every time he told me anything, so I don't think he's exaggerating.
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What is he apologizing for if he didn't do anything? You think he may be stirring the pot? Maybe she never said anything to him and he's making it all up. Now there's something to be sorry about.
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@readytogo said:
What is he apologizing for if he didn't do anything? You think he may be stirring the pot? Maybe she never said anything to him and he's making it all up. Now there's something to be sorry about.
Th main reason why he was apologising was because he knew that I was going through intense emotional turbulence. Even after things had settled, he apologised because he knew what she'd said to him and what she'd laughed about would really hurt, Both him and I figured I'd need a bit of closure to move on. It did hurt, and stained my viewpoint of her, but it did help me to move on...kinda...Yeah there's still the insecurity, but it just sorta flared up when I posted the original topic because I was really depressed at that time. I've known him for years, he's not a total cunt like that (Pardon the language) it was just finishing the last few tidbits of something that'd droned on for too long already.