...Please help, quickly

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Hi, im an 11 year old male computer nerd. Ok, the nerd part wasn't necessary, but I have a girl friend, thats the same age as me.. She has been getting very personal, she even told me about her sexual life... She also has hugged me several times, and has kissed me once or twice, Its obvious what shes hinting, but is it ok? I mean, were 11 years old... But I love her, and I cant stand holding back anymore! Its killing me, not being able to show how I truly feel about her... Please, can you provide some help... I know its wrong at this age, but I feel were both ready... Yes, I know about the whole STD thing... I also know how the virginity band works, and I know i'll have to be careful with that, and I will... I haven't told my parents, because I think they will freak... They might even ban me from being her... If that happened, I feel that my life would no longer have meaning... I've known her for a long time, about 3 years,,, Please respond...

PS. I know im in the wrong section! Its not like this sight has a "sex in genral' section, in which they should really add -;-

@readytogo said in ...Please help, quickly:

@Almist04 Hi and welcome to A2A. Love is an emotion and emotions seem to charge quickly the younger you are. Consider an infant who can be smiling one moment and crying the next. Eleven year olds are not emotionally mature and find their feelings of love change quickly. Sex is a slippery slope and rather difficult to turn back from. You have a lot of years yet to form relationships and will find that you have many.

I guess that I would counsel you to wait. This is a BIG step. Give it plenty of thought before you act.

(Moved to sexuality forum by readytogo)

@readytogo Oh... Thank you very much... But I still think that we are both ready.. Of course, you have a great point... I have thought about it for quite a while, about a month... I am in the middle of puberty... So Its a bit debatable if its wrong at this age.... Thanks so much for your help :D

@Almist04 Remember that, even though you are young, if you ejaculate, you can impregnate. And how do you explain that one?

@readytogo

A. Are you mad....? You sound mad, I hope ur not mad...

B. Geez theirs so many things to worry about -,-

C. Please don't act stereo typical, I know quite a bit about that kind of stuff... I might of ran out of things to learn...

D. Theres sevral ways to avoid that! Condoms, or on a more simple basis, ejaculate outside the womb... Told you I know about this!

E. Thanks again... If theres another thing to worry about, please tell me... I hope your not mad...

Hi Almist04, ejaculation outside isn't reliable as a contraceptive measure, simply because guys often find that, wanting to prolong the pleasure as long as possible, they end up too slow to pull out. (It requires ejaculation to be fully outside the vagina; outside the womb is standard in sex, as the penis does not enter the womb.)

I'm not sure how you are thinking to have penis-in-vagina sex without breaking the hymen. It's not very far in (nowadays it is usually broken by a tampon long before sex).

It's usual in a relationship (rather than a one-night stand) for sex to be approached gradually, in stages, not starting with penis-in-vagina straight away. I think movies, etc, give the wrong impression here, because they want to move the plot along quickly. Most women especially want to take things slowly and spend a lot of time touching and caressing before moving any further. It is the lot of us males to do a lot of masturbation while waiting.

No-one ever runs out of things to learn!

@Ineligible Uhg... Im starting to lose hope in this forum, its all the same thing ive heard 100 times over again! I talked with her about where she wants to go with the relationship, and she said she will think about it, but the look on her face when she said it, was what confused me... She had a odd smile... it was like she hinting something... But still, im sick of the same argument over, and over again! Unless SOMEBODY makes a HUGE comeback, im done with this forum, and all to do with afraidtoask what-so-ever!!!!