How to get rid of frequent Sexual fantasies and Masturbation?

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I am Jason, 25 years old. I found myself sometimes have a strong desire of sex when alone. Sex come to my mind from time to time. Even When I went to bed, Sexual fantasies came to my mind Involuntarily which makes me felt tired every day. Then the strong desire drove me to visit porn websites. After masturbating with my hands, I felt regret everytime. I know it is not good for me, but I can not stop. Do you guys have strong desire of sex as me ? If so, what will you do to get rid of it?

I am afraid to see a psychologist as it is shameful for me. I have done the following ways to stop masturbation:

1. Searching related books to check if any one has the same situation with me, only a few, but not very helpful.
2. Try to make myself always busy to take off sex desire from my mind.
3. Searching google, some so called experts suggest buy portable masturbator sex toys. Their theory is the more you suppress, the more desire you will have, and I should release my Physiological needs with a masturbator. So I just ordered two masturbators from two famous sex toys wesites: Beyourlover and lovehoney . (I am not affiliated wth these two websites, I will cancel my order if you have any other good suggestions)
4. Submitting this post.
   If you have met the same situation and get frequent sex desire off your mind, Please help me.

Thanks
Jason

Welcome to A2A, Jason.

Having sex desires and fantasies come to your mind frequently is the normal experience of nearly all males. It comes from having testosterone (male sex hormone) in your system. There are some guys who have either weaker desires or an unusually strong will who can suppress these always without masturbation, but they are very few. Yet so many pretend, or it just isn't talked about.

Whether going at it with sex toys will help, I don't know. I'm doubtful. It might tire you out for a while, but I doubt any effect would last long.

One thing that will reduce sex desire is old age, because then testosterone levels drop. But you want to be able to enjoy the rest of life before you get to that point; which means, I think, managing your desires rather than trying to suppress them.

@Ineligible Thanks for your advice. I will try.

Thanks for your advice. I will try.

I strongly recommend that you see a psychiatrist. I know you don't want to. But if really helps.

Masturbating and having sexual fantasies isn't wrong. It's actually very natural. Feeling guilty afterwards isn't and it possibly has a reason that has nothing to do with sex.

In the past I had the same problem you had. I masturbated a lot. Like in multiple times a day. During that time I watched porn I don't even dare to describe. It controlled my life completely.

I came to a point where I had a complete mental breakdown. I started to see a psychiatrist and found out that my guilty feeling after I had masturbated didn't come from the masturbating but from the emotional experiences I had in my life and had pushed away.

I went in therapy and now I don't have a guilty feeling anymore after I masturbated and I don't have to search for porn anymore. I can enjoy playing with my own body much more and the guilty feeling is completely gone.

I don't say its easy to talk to a stranger. Psychiatrist or not. But it really helps and believe me those people have heard it all.

I hope this somewhat helps.

@Jac72 Thanks for telling us that, Jac72. I think some readers might find it very helpful. Welcome to A2A!

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