id been trying all my life to not have sex untill i was married, but failed at that recently. my problem is that, with the guy i was with, no matter how hard we tried, we couldnot get his penis in. it got about a quarter of the way, then nothing. i knew it would hurt the first time, so i was withstanding the pain, but it was like my vagina was too small. i brushed it off thinking maybe his penis was just too big for a virgin, but a week or so later i tried it with another guy and the same thing happened! i think i have a problem with the size of it or something, because its not even stretching like its supposed to. does anyone know whats going on or have had this happen to them? every time i try its the same thing and its pretty embarissing, and ive never gotten the chance to enjoy sex. grrr. help from anyone would be appreciated.
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A womans first time
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You may need to try to stretch things out a little. Try having your guy finger you and after a while get him to use two fingers. Also, foreplay will help a lot. The wetter you get down there the easier he can slide in there. "If you fail at first, try again."
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I wouldnt be embarrased by it. Actually I think most guys wouldnt mind at all knowing you were that tight. They might get frustrated by not being able to get it in, but I gaurantee theyd rather say "man i couldnt get it in" as opposed to "well we did but i couldnt feel anything".I dated a girl that was the same way as you except I could barely get a FINGER in. We worked at it until I could get two fingers & then finally we could have sex. Just masturbate alot & try to losin it up a lil down there
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It's a very common effect of nerves, making you tense up and clench your vaginal muscles. (Now, if you can do that voluntarily, he'll love you forever.) The more relaxed you can be the easier it will be. Once you get used to it all the problem will go away.
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were you aroused? you can't just do a few minutes of kissing and boob squeezing and then expect to be able to have sex. you need to have your natural juices flowing to provide lubrication, and be relaxed. the guy should take time to get you aroused with kissing, touching, fingering, oral, etc.you might want to get some lubricant...you can get it at the drugstore right by the condoms. WET or Astroglide are really good. If you're too embarrassed to buy that, get some Albolene. It is a cleanser/makeup remover, but many, many people use it for lube. It looks waxy in the jar, but it liquefies on contact with something warm on a side note, i'm concerned you had sex with two different guys one week to the next. that's really not something you should be doing. not good physically (STD risk) and not good emotionally. don't have sex just to have sex!
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i dont know about that make up remover....but i did get a sheet from planned parenthood that suggested crisco or vegetable oil as lubricant. they say it wont cause infection and wont irritate the vagina. cool huh?
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Oils can't be used with condoms, because they weaken the rubber.
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If you can relax 100% with your bf will get looser than you think! It took 3 months for my gf to get that relaxed with me. once only 1 finger went in now I have 4 in and it feels like 1 to her. once you get wet to the point that it makes noise and starts to discharge then you are there! How are you doing? Did this help?
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they did also say not to use oils if it is your only means of birth control, for that very reason.