This boy is driving me insane

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I've been raped before, so I know how sex feels, yet it has been a long time since then and I haven't had intercourse with anyone yet I have dry humped and done oral.

you can be secret sex-friends ^__^

dunno if you were kidding or not, but that shit will fuck things up way worse then anything that has happened...and massgrvgirl...did you tell him off like you said you were going to? if so, any updates?

I did tell him off. I said you've changed. You're not happy anymore, you act cocky, and you never want to hang out with us anymore. I told him how I heard how before we met, he always used to ditch his friends for his girlfriend, and I said he's doing it again. I said you're acting obsessive over her. This was on aol so he wasn't responding too much, but I think he was annoyed with me saying anything about him obsessing over his girlfriend. He just said WELL I LOVE HER. I even asked him if he was pushing me away because he didn't want to lead me on, and he didnt' say anything for the longest time. And that was that. The next time we hung out he was different with me probably because I said something. HOwever, I'm the only one who had the balls to tell him off, and I thought he would appreciate my honesty b/c he's honest too, but I guess not. He doesn't care what anyone thinks of him and his girlfriend because he's stuck in his own little world with her. He had me fooled that he was a nice guy. Now I know he's just crazy.

don't waste r time with him as anything more then a friend.

rape is not sex!

yeah it is

It's sex, but it's not consensual

I don't like to call it sex because it's not about sex. It's a violation and it's about someone trying to have power over another human being.

Sex is between two people while rape is someone inflicting their sickness upon someone else. You can say you've "had" sex while you can't say you've "had" rape. You've "been" raped, big difference.

IMO, it makes it harder for rape survivors to heal and have healthy sexual relationships after the attack if what happened to them is called "sex". Whether you add the word "unconsensual" in front of it or not, rape is not sex.

Rape is sex, it's penetration...it's sex

yep...sex is sex...penetration makes it so...UNBREAKABLE LAW

Keep your blinders on why don't you. At least I prefaced my words with "in my opinion".

Don't want to argue semantics. What I am trying to get across is that mixing the words/conceps of rape and sex is something that many people would like to see change, ESPECIALLY rape survivors. I know someone who was gang raped with a broom handle and that is not sex. Do you see what I mean???? Sure, that's penetration, but it is not sex. And as for laws, look at science/politics, it's not a static situation. Again, don't want to argue or put anyone down. Just want you to think about what I am saying before shutting me down. I don't want this girl whose first experience is rape to be associating that with sex for the rest of her life.

Well I understand where you're coming from. Rape with a broom handle it's walking a fine line with regards to sex, but rape with a penis is definently sex.

Sigh. One day I hope you'll understand.

In reply to:rape is not sex! Good point. Let me repeat it, for those who didn't catch it: RAPE IS NOT FUCKING SEX!!!!

What do I need to understand? Rape is sex.