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Hyperion

Am i fucked?

ok me and my friends all got together and got drunk and played strip poker... we all got naked by the end. We had blankets to cover ourselves but there were times were we exposed ourselves on accident getting up or bending over.

i felt absolutely horrible about the whole ordeal when i woke up sober, if not a bit hung over. my girlfriend found out and she is very very very pissed. she's quite religious and she called us all dumb and immature. She almost considered leaving me over this actually :frowning:

We talked for hours and I explained myself and apologized to the end of the earth and back. She's not going to leave me but, understandably, she said it would take her awhile to regain her trust me in again like before.

Do you think she really still wants to be with me? I feel so horrible about it and I dont wanna lose her over something this dumb and stupid, shes worth so much more then this and I dunno what i'd do if i didn't have her by my side anymore because things have been going great up till this happened.

will i ever have the same amount of trust as before? have i royally fucked myself?
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knowing_me

i duno, for some reason i dont understand why shes so angry... i mean you didnt exactly cheat on her or anything... i know how u feel about the whole trust thing, sometimes i feel like i did something so terrible and my friends are dissapointed in me, or have lost trust. its SUCH a horrible feeling!! and it must be even worse with a gf/bf. Well she felt so strongly about this incident, and yet didnt leave you, then she must still want to be with you. If she feels the same way about you then you do about her, i think eventually she will trust u again, and things will be like before. I mean.... the worst is over, no? sorry, hope this helped
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Well she felt so strongly about this incident, and yet didnt leave you, then she must still want to be with you.

Exactly. Shows she doesn't find the ordeal bad enough to leave you.

You haven't royally screwed yourself over.

On the trust factor - it'll take time. You said she's religious so that's probably why it bothered her more compared to a not-so-religious person. And it may have nothing to do with that either. Either way, she'll gain her trust back. You didn't cheat on her and nothing happened so it's nothing to completely lose trust over.

Things'll be fine soon, just give it alittle time and make sure to stay in touch with her emotions and feelings about it as much as possible. :grin:
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yea, she really does care bout you, and u care bout her...so the best thing i think is for u to show her that u care do something special for her...do something romantic...make her dinner (depending on your age) write her something, give her a stuffd animal of yours...jus do something romantic...dont do something thats gonna say "hey baby, i did something stupid so now ive bought this peice of shit to make it all better" jus find a good idea...im sure u will good luck bud...she'll come round in the end...im sure of it
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stupid_man

I'm not saying what u did was exactly right but it wasn't really wrong either. She just seems a little uptight and the things u did were immoral to her, but that doesn't mean you have to stop being "you" just because she doesn't approve. Yes some things should change, and i personally dont agree with drinking, but its ur life, and maybe you shouldn't have gotten naked in front of them but its all seems like innocent fun to me.
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websexinfo

Ah! Hyperion. Let me begin by saying welcome back to the boards even if it is possibly a short visit.Nope, you haven't fucked yourself over. Yes, you can gain back her trust but the main thing is it's going to take time.This is just a little extra... but it seems she has just sacrificed her trust in you. Her healing may go quicker if you sacrifice something also. Perhaps quit drinking? It's bad for you anyway. That's what I would do... that is if I drank. If you decide to go this route, don't think your sacrifice will make it all better. Time heals yet potentially an enemy. So make the time progressive... Anything not moving or moving backward is unacceptable.
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Hyperion

yea it sounds like i can work with this lol, i said i wouldn't drink enough to get piss drunk. mebe at most a few shots or few coolers. i'm not huge on drinking but i don't mind not hehe i really dont care so it was an easy sacrifice. we're getting together on the weekend and i'll meet her family (from out of town) so thats a good sign and we're back to talking for hours on end again lol.ps. thx websexinfo for the re-welcoming hopefully my stay is more lengthy
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websexinfo

Good to hear the relationship is getting well again. As you probably know, it would be a bad idea to get buzzed anytime soon.

I took a break from the site for a while myself. Moving and giving the new gf attention and all. But what was once new is gone now and I'm settled so I have more time to return.

Oh yes, and good luck with the parents.
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