QUESTION

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When I was in school we use to take showers after PE class, and it was normal to take a quick peek of other boys penises just for curiosity. But now I'm in college and we have communal showers in the dorms without separation and i've seen lots of guys cheching me out. It's that normal? do you guys do it?I guess it's because I'm uncut and there's a lot of cut boys and they do it just for curiosity

As a guy, it saddens me to say so, but checking out one another's penises in settings where we're naked together is totally, completely and depressingly normal. Neurotic but normal. Your foreskin is a curiosity in a shower full of circumcised guys. My exposed glans would be a curiosity in a shower full of uncircumsised guys. (There's a guy at my gym who really is an object of flesh-crawly interest--he's got a large bush of pubic hair and no penis at all.) But mostly what we're doing is checking out sizes, and more of us are probably thinking "his is bigger than mine" than "mine is bigger than his." Why do we torture ourselves like that? Cause we're guys, and we can't help ourselves. So don't worry--chances are the guy checking out your organ is wishing it were his.

lol, very true. I rarely use showers with other guys but id probably find my self comparing too just to make sure im normal. this guy with no penis, was that because it retracted into his body when it was limp?

Totally normal - just about all guys check each other's equipment out when in communal showers, changing rooms, urinals, etc. It's like an instinct to look to compare our own penis with others to see how we stack up and reinforce if we're normal or not.
Some psychologists think it stems back from when we were kids and saw our dad's penis or some other adult penis, and it looked absolutely huge by comparison. Although of course our penises have grown and caught up to that size as adults, we're never really sure it ever fully caught up to that size we saw that we have in our memories. Makes sense to me.

that makes perfect sense to me, i saw my dads penis when i was young (man thats a bad image) anyway it look ten times the size of what mine looks now.

The only problem with guys comparing in the shower (other than it seeming gay...) is that your penis will be soft (Hopefully! ), and will not be at its full size... so it really doesnt make sense.

I'm sure not going to ask, but my guess is that the poor guy's penis was surgically removed for something grim like cancer--it's pretty rare but it does happen. Seeing him twists my gut in a knot, a natural male reaction. But I also think how brave he is to keep coming to a place where he's going to strip naked in front of other guys every day. Don't know if I could do that.

I think those psychologists are right, at least in my own experience. I remember seeing my dad's penis often during my boyhood. It looked enormous next to my little-boy equipment. Objectively, I know there was nothing extraordinary about his organ--I've seen some *real* monsters at my gym--but I'm 43 now and still don't think I've caught up with my pop.

Now I'm a dad myself, with two teen-age boys, which puts me on the other side of the line. I saw my older boy with an erection one day--he's going on 16--and he asked me if it was big enough. I hoped to spare the agony all us guys seem to go through, and I told him it was plenty big to do anything he'd ever need it to do. He looked skeptical. He said he had measured it at six inches. I told him, truthfully, that that was exactly the same as mine when I last measured it, when I was around his age, and I had had a long happy sex life with it. Did he believe me? I doubt it--he's seen me naked a lot, but never erect, and God knows what he's imagining. This silly size thing seems to be hard-wired into us guys, and I really do think it's our legacy from our dads.