Hey all. I'm aware of how important eye contact and maintaining eye contact is in life. In relationships, friendships, out of due respect, business etc. However, only recently have I noticed how much trouble I have in the field. Practically everyone is used to it and don't think much of it, but I'm a totally different case.I realized the problem a month ago when I found myself not being able to maintain eye contact with my then boyfriend. He commented on it, and I was really embarrased. After that I started paying atention to the problem and found that I'm unable to do it with my own father and closest friends, even. The most I'm able to is around 3 seconds and after that I get the feeling that I'm being 'rude' or I must look away. Out of self conciousness? I don't know.Has anyone ever had this type of problem? Any ideas on how to overcome it? Thanks.
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Eye Contact Issues
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hrmmseriously have you tried doing some staring matches with some friends? that could help!lol but im sure theres probably some pyscological cofidence building excersises or something...but they wouldnt be as fun as staring matches :P
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I don't know if it's relevant, but people with autism or related conditions such as Asperger's syndrome have difficulty with eye contact.
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i have trouble keeping eye contact sometimes. Just relax and act normal, you only need to glance into their eyes occasionaly. if their talking you might notice you will look at their mouth more than their eyes. Just the occasional glance to let them know you relieze they are there is all you need. If you look at you boyfriend when he is talking to you and just try to copy his body language. You might notice him looking down towards you chest sometimes (apparently us guys cant help checking a girls chest when she is talking to us) i know i cant help it.
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I realized i used to be like that too. and i was kinda embaresssed.. but my job helped me with that.. sometimes i notice myself slipping and i feel really rude.. because im doing something for someone and im not even looking at them.. but most times i can do it.. i practise with the sexxy guys.. mmmM
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What i do is on my lunch break from work is wonder about the city/get some food/goto HMV etc. When im walking about and i see girls im attracted to i keep heavy eye contact on them until they walk past. Other people i try to hold gaze until they look away. Its a good trick. It can make you feel big.
I rekon its the best way to build it up since your not gonna see these people again so its easier to build the confidence to do such a bold thing. But yeah, just mentally make the effort to hold eye contact as much as possible with as many people as possible however uncomfortable it may make you feel.
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I have the same problem. I also feel like I'm being rude, but I mainly think it's because I can't stand the thought of people looking at me. I'm paranoid about stuff like that.
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I feel the same l8er.
I've also noticed it's nothing I can really control. It just happens no matter how hard I were to try, but we'll see.
Thanks for all the advice - I'll give em a try. :grin:
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Exactly how I feel. Couldn't have put it better myself.
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yeah i thin k i also still dont keep eye contact as nmuch as i should. i always think, "hmmm am i staring too much?"
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try positioning ur eye so they look like they are keeping eye contact, then just try to "look through" them.
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I know many people that have that same problem. I guess luckily for me, I dont have it. I am very shy, although getting better everyday. Just if your talking to a girl, make sure your looking at their EYES, cause they definetely notice. It does seem like something that gets better with practice. My biggest problem is that my eyes usually dart to their(females) chest and back to their eyes. It is really noticable.
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Actually I am in the very same issuesits not actually eye contact I do, but I look at their FACE, if you look at the face, its kind of the sameA friend told me once that I dont take eye contact while talking to him at 1 time. I took this as a challenge so I take eye contact to him all the timeA word of advice also, always have eye contact when speaking w/ a girl
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theres nothing wrong with that, its perfectly normal, i used to have promblems making eye contact, and sometimes i still do but theres no reason to be afraid