Friend With Abusive Parents

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I was at my friends house today and she was throwing a party that she wasn't exactly supposed to be having while her parents were away. Anyways her sister told on her after mom heard here best friend screaming in the backround. My friend's best friend was crying that she wasn't going to allowed over and stuff while my friend was crying to me privately about how her mom is going to come home and beat her up and throw her down the stairs, and she explained how she's done this many times before with the hitting and the verbal abuse. I was trying to explain to her that although she did soemthing she wasn't supposed to her mom has no right to do that, she doesn't seem to fully get how bad it is although afraid of the conciquences. She used to go to a theropist and when she opned up to the doctor the doctor told her mother and in result was beat up for it, and was accused of lying by the doctor. I was wondering if anyone knew of any really good teen abuse websites or hotlines that i could give to her, cuz i need to at least give her some resources. I looked on msn and stuff but I don't know what good and what isn't.

This is really serious. I'm glad you care enough to help her, she really needs it. What frightens me the most is the fact that she was beaten for opening up to her therapist. That's terrible.I live in California so I only know of local hotlines. You should talk about it with her and make sure she's ready to take the step and make a call. Look in a phonebook. Ask adults. Search engines are good if nothing else is available.Awhile back I found this site: http://www.burstingthebubble.com/steps.shtmlHope it's atleast slightly helpful. Good luck!

In reply to: theropist and when she opned up to the doctor the doctor told her mother there not suposed to do that. unless it's a minor and is in danger. and the dumb ass should have known the danger is her mom so.....see theripst are just stupid as hell.

I had a friend in a similiar situation. I solved that problem myself. My buddy was always small in stature & his dad wasn't much bigger. Well he had always told me his dad beat him, but made me promise I wouldnt say anything to anyone especially his dad. So I honored his wishes. Well during our senior year his dad had the balls to hit him while I was there. I couldn't help it. I just came unglued. I beat the livin crap out of his dad and straight up told him if he ever hit his son again he'd get the same thing. To this day my buddy thanks me, because his dad never touched him again. Everytime I'd go over to his house, his dad was nice as he could be to us.What's my point? You need to tell someone or do something to stop it. I dont recommend you beat a mom, but you do need to do something. My friend practically lived in fear until I did that to his dad. You gotta do something, even if she tells you not to. An abusive parent normally leads to the kids being abusive. Definately needs to be stopped.

i think abusive parents are that way cause thats how they were treated as kids. some parents are usually like hmm i wont do this to my kids, but others dont do it because they dont know any better. my dad was that way. he doesn't hit me or my sisters hardly ever but when the time comes it can be bad:( other reasons are for iguess to feel superior and to get some anger out.

well disipline is different than abuse. I was whipped with belts, extensions cords, switches from bushes & trees, paddles, the wire end of a fly swat, shoes, you name it anything they could get their hands on. As long as its on your ass, then that's disipline. My dad drew blood on several occasions. Good lord that man bruised me with his bare hands. My dad was a beast, lol. 6'0" and 245 pounds & LEAN. Even at 45 my dad is still pretty big. But again, every child needs to be spanked when they're younger. If they're not something is very wrong.Abuse is hitting or "pushin the child down stairs". Abuse will be obvious.

AsianMan i agree with u my dad was born and raised in a military base so his father was harsh on him to so its like passed on from generation lol. but wow thats a serius problem throwing u doiwn the stairs whats up with her?? i suggest u call the cops if she does that its child abuse. one of my friends had the same problem and i told him to call the cops and he threathened his dad that he will call them and now hes scared of laying a finger on him. but i dunno

Powerlifter, i too htink young children need to get spanked (not beat till they bruise) when they're young because as you get older, something in your brain makes you not want to do whatever you were hit for.

definately bro. look at all the spoiled bratty kids. I can pretty mcuh gaurantee you that they're werent disciplined right. When I was younger I feared of doing something wrong becuase I knew what my dad would do. Therefore I stayed out of a lot of trouble when I was younger. But kids will be kids and I wasnt perfect. Now-a-days I'm not longer fearful of my dad "spanking" me, but I still have respect for the man. I'm older now and know what's right & wrong. I have my parents to thank for that. If you spoil kids when they get older they'll continue to think they can get away with things. Then they'll have Big Bubba in a jail cell teaching them that lesson. I dont know about yall, but I'm glad my dad "beat" me.

well shes deffintly lucky to have a friend like you no dobut about that, but she needs to stand up for herself and go to the police, she is in serious danger and nobody except the autorities and help her