Oldest virgin here? and how old are you right now

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wtf RockyDude, slept with a relative when you were 5?! Sure you didnt dream it? I didnt think kids that young could even get boners anyway, or maybe they do randomly, but not from being turned on.

They can get boners from birth, and apparently there's a "little puberty" for boys at 4 or 5 when testosterone levels increase. I don't think the feelings would be anything like as intense, though.

On topic, I am 19 and I cannot say being a virgin is bugging me. I just enjoy my everyday life and if it happens it happens, it is just part of life.

17 goingo n 18 in two months...still a virgin.Sex to me is such a loving thing...even tho I have never expreienced it, to it's just like an acceptance of each other. So, I am not neccesrly waiting for someone whom I get married to, but more someone who I truely madly deeply love. Thats when I will be ready...Cheers.

Ah, sex is such a mystical thing when you're a virgin. Sometimes I wish I could go back.

i'm 19 and the only real reason i'm still a virgin is that scared as hell of getting pregant, my sister had a baby when she was 18 and i don't want to end up like her

hmmm, that is one of my fears. getting a girl pregnant.

Well speaking from exsperince i had a child when i was 17 .. i would say if i had the chance again id not let anything like this happen whatso ever but now the deed is done its done really and i wouldnt change it for the world becouse i love my markcuss loads. But just becouse your scared doesnt mean you have to stay a virgin... there are many ways you can pervent pregnacy happening... condoms..coil..pill ...injection(mostly for her to use)if your so scared ask her to go on any of the above and use condoms aswell thats a hell of a low chance of you getting her pregnant with 2 of them isnt it? you shouldnt be scared becouse if your safe you safe aint you ?

there's always that slight chance of failure though

oh of course but less if you use as much as possible lol :grin:

i turn 22 in just over a week. I do want sex so I can't say I'm happy right now. I know my time will come.

im 19 and almost 20 and still a virgin but hoping to be changing that really soon.

If you're not in a religious order that requres it, or have no sex drive and are happy with that, could someone please explain to me why it's good to be a virgin at 27?

I'm 16 and I'm a virgin. I will be loosing it at the age of 17. It's a long story with my GF that I'm not willing to explain but we have plans in august.

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"If you're not in a religious order that requres it, or have no sex drive and are happy with that, could someone please explain to me why it's good to be a virgin at 27?"Like previously mentioned, it's a measure of one's strength, willpower, and an indication of their morals/beliefs. Mostly pertaining to waiting for marriage... as the number of 20+ year old's that are virgins for other reasons is very small. There are a lot of reasons to wait for marriage, especially considering the divorce rate these days. If you're stong enough to wait, you're strong enough to make things work.I'm 22 and am feeling mostly hopeless. But I'd feel much worse if I slept with someone prematurely.

I am 42 and a virgin. I think that hard as i might try to explain you wouln't understand it. it's complicated. I really would love to have sex and there are times i have regretted not doing it. but at the same time I am proud of what i have accomplished. i know you may not understand, but it's not something i need to be ashamed of. As you could bet, i get really torqued when i hear people say things like well kids are gonna have sex anyway or how can you expect them not to or you cant' expect someone in their 20s whos not married to stay a virgin. that's crap. I'm not saying it's as easy for all as it is for others, and it hasn't always been easy for me, but i'm proof it is possible.So all you young kids on here bitchin and moaning about wanting to have sex and you can't wait. I don't want to hear it!

I hate to be a hardass, but it sounds like a rationalization.Some people fear possible commitment, some people have disabling performance anxiety, some people think denial will give them spiritual insights not otherwise obtainable.Some people get their whole body tatooed, some Opus Dei folks flog themselves, some people are into various forms of masochism, some people practice abstinence (which is the denial of a basic human drive).

Some people have feelings and don't want to get hurt. People can become very much incapable of getting emotionally close to anyone after getting attached to someone that cheats, dumps, or otherwise hurts them. Sex doesn't have everything to do with that, but it damn sure doesn't help the matter. And it's far too easy for those that get hurt to want to just fuck someone to ease the lonliness and pain, especially if there's nothing left to lose. Those that do so end up starting the cycle all over by hurting someone due to their strong feelings for a previous lover and their deep seated fear of getting attached and hurt again. People that don't give a shit (or can't), and have nothing to lose, aren't as likely to keep lasting relationships.I don't believe fearing possible commitment plays a factor so much, as everyone wants to find a perfect mate or true love to begin with, whether or not they recognize or admit it later in life. There just aren't people content with being alone and/or without sex (primal urge, as was said). Shyness or performance anxiety affects only something less than 1% of guys to the point that they remain virgins past the age of 20. Girls aren't affected to that point for various reasons..Waiting for religious reasons is just as well to me, as it still shows a person's level of strength and commitment. And there are most likely other reasons, including the ones above, as well as the obvious ones like pregnancy, STD's, etc. Unfortunately, most that wait for religious reasons don't seem to want to marry someone any less religious than themselves.Steve, you lost me on the last part. You seem to be describing things openly done to make a statement or attract a certain type of attention. I don't know of a lot of people, especially guys, that brag about being 20+ year old virgins (actually, I don't know of but 3 other virgins my age, aside from those in this thread). After all, there must be something wrong with those who wait, right? Especially if the ones waiting have dicks.

Answers like that are the reason I hesitated postingin the first place. I can't tellyou how wrong you are.Why do my reasons have to be rationalization. Just because you didn't make the same choice you think that I'm hiding some deep dark secret behind rationalizations? That's just bullshit. In reply to: Some people fear possible commitment, some people have disabling performance anxiety, some people think denial will give them spiritual insights not otherwise obtainable. And some people have made some very difficult decisions for some well thought out reasons that you obviously wouldn't understand. I don't understand why in the world you want to be so judgmental about this. It seems to me like it almost bothers you that there are well-adjusted guys my age who have made a decision to not have sex. And theonly way you can wrap your brain around it is to think of us as defective, or dejected, or like some star wars geek who can't get laid. Broaden your mind Buddy. In reply to: abstinence (which is the denial of a basic human drive). No. It is not the denial of a basic human need. While sex is necessary for the propogation of the species, it is not a biological necessity for a person, like food and water. There are times when I feel like I want to pop someone upside the head. But I don't. That is not denying a need or a desire. It is acknowledging the desire, but making a decision to not pop the person. Believe me, I am well aware of my desire to have sex. Always have been. no denial at all. I've just made a decision around that desire.I'm sorry you don't understand.