My long time bf has a "father" that I am fearful of. I liked him in the begining but I found out a whole bunch of stuff, and that just made me dislike the man. The "father" used to be abusive and is easily pissed off. The man is 6 something and looks like he can seriously injure me without a second thought. He even threatened me in one of his overreaction episodes. He doesn't remember it but it holds vivid in my mind. I try to avoid him at all times and try not to call his house when my bf is there. My bf says I should drop it because he doesn't abuse and wouldn' hurt anyone. My arguement towards that is, the guy has a short temper, a history of abusive tendencies, and there is never a cop around when you need one. It puts a strain on our relationship because my bf really loves his "father" but everytime I'm around the man I tip-toe and try to blend into the wall in fear of the man. The reason I put father in paranthesis is because its not his biological dad or his current stepdad, but the male father figure in his life. Am I overreacting and try and block out the past or is my bf not underestimating the problem?
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Am I over reacting
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well, i would be a little fearful to, give him a chance though, maybe youll come to like him but this guy sounds a bit dangerous so keep your back
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those are quotation marks
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sorry I keep mixing up the word quotation and parantheses. It's a bad habit of mine.
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I think you do have a good reason to avoid his "father". It's probably best to not mention it to your bf though.
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i'm not offended or anything i was making sure everyone knew that they're quotation marks and not parentheses
as for your bf's "dad" i wouldn't make a big deal of it if i was you, unless something happened