my friend has just killed himself.i was speaking to him about his suicidal feelings and he had a horrible screen name on msn (If i don't come back i'm dead). i tried to stop him, we were talking and i was trying to persuade him to not do it, ad t all went quiet. so i tryed to call him and he didn't answer. so now he dead and i scared, the stuff he was saying made so much sense. i wish i could have helped him more, i really do ad feel so bad that i didn't and couldnt stop him, i thought i would be able to when it came to it, but i couldn't, and that sucks, so much
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That's sad. I'm sorry.
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Seems like you're trying to find yourself at fault for his death. You do realize that someone troubled enough to kill themselves is gonna do it no matter if you're there or not. Sometimes people do it in front (or in the company of) people they know or love in order to get a reaction from them (which they do not live to see). It wasn't your fault, I hope you know.
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yeah, i do know that he would have done, i just feel like i let him down as a friend, and I know it not my fault, i wish i could have done more to help him. feeling really bad now because of it.
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you did let him down as you tried your hardest to help him. If he didnt really take in your help then maybe he was passed helping....are you sure he is dead and he actully isnt screwing with you ??
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In reply to:you did let him down as you tried your hardest to help him.don't you mean didn't?
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lol im soooooo sorry yeah i meant didnt i sneezed in the midle of typing and lost track(damn i keep having sneezing fits lol) sorry deadinside
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I know the feeling of almost loosing someone to suicide. Its the scariest thing to deal with and you never really know what to do. What actions are in the persons best interest. Luckily my friend did not kill himself, i'm so sorry that you had to lose him. Whatever happens though don't blame yourself. You tried so hard to save him but no matter what he was going to kill himself eventually. You probably have saved him before in the past maybe without even knowing it. He's probably lived much longer than he would have without you as a friend. And again i'm very sorry for your loss.
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That's a horrible thing to experience, deadinside. It wasn't your fault - we don't have supernatural power, and we can't stop people doing things and make the world all good. We just do what we can to help where we can, and you have done that. If we could always stop another person doing bad things, then that person wouldn't be a free agent, and wouldn't have any responsibility for himself.
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Sorry to hear about your loss. Just out of curiosty.. Is it a confirmed death? or is he like someone else said just screwing around... Fell free to PM me anytime if you want to talk
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yeah, did think of that yesterday but got a call this mornng from his mum thanking me, for tryimg to help him he overdosed on a cocktail of drugs he found in his bathroom. his mum found him early this morning and called me asking questions, we were chatting on msn and he left the convo up, she knew nothing of his depression. it fucked up! grr
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i'm really afraid of that happaing, he knows who i'm talking about, i know i couldn't take it. i mean i can barley take it now and she was a pet i really don't know what i would do if a close friend did that. dead inside, becky right?, i don't know what to say to you. I think ur strong. If that had happened to me I know i would have a mental break down. that is a big reason y i worry so much. I get used to things. like if my gf don't give me that call i think she's done got hurt or in a wreak ..it's alwasy a bad thought. same as with another, we talk just about every day and when he's late i feel so relived andexited when i see him pop up..u know like on msn/aim. but then he gets it when somethings up and he can't let me know .well basically hey i'm ok. i gues i'm just a worrier. even when i'm here with my dad and my mom';s gone someplace and she says she'll be back around this time or in a while ..and she's not i worry about her. i don't know y i do that, i just do.
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I'm a worrier too. I try to suppress it as best I can.
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not sure if suppress is the best word to use. When you suppress something the chances of it coming back is quite high and it hits hard. Instead of suppression we should take our worries and conquer them. Maybe by thinking of reasons not to worry and forcing ourselves to know that the best outcome is possible. If worse comes to worse we just have to be strong and as ready as we can be. Although in certain situations like this thread in particular being ready can never truely happen and maybe we shouldn't be. There is a reason to why things happen though and we all just need to take a deeper look and calm ourselves. Grief is okay, morning is necessary, and breaking down and crying is also a great way to achieve your goals of leveling out. Worrying is okay in certain amounts but too much can cause more damage than the actual thing you are worrying about depending on what exactly it is.
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You're right, stu. I should have said that I try to overcome my worrying - that I try to go ahead regardless, if I decide that I am worrying more than circumstances warrant.