i have this guy friend. hes a little hornball. all he ever talks about is sex. we've never been together, and i never want to. he used to be a good friend, id have tons of fun hanging out with him. but he would always ruin things because once we really started to have fun he'd be all over me. sometimes with other guys its alright, but with him it feels so violating. lately hes ben doing it more and more, and he doesnt back down. its gotten to the point where i feel so helpless. but he thinks im upset about it he'll just go and be all over me more, which just makes it worse. i dont think he'd ever do anything too serious, like rape, because he doesnt think hes doing anything wrong. he thinks hes making things better. i have tried to talk to him about this. twice i've taken him aside and had a serious conversation with him about it. he got all offended, but a week later, it started again. i've tried joking with him about it. when he starts ill laugh and push him away and be like "im mad at u" just joking (even when im not). that didnt work either. iv blown up on him, bitched at him about it, and not tlked to him. that didnt work either. he just did it more to "make me feel better". its not just the alloverme part, but hes one of those guys who critisizes everything u do, and makes it personal. hes "just joking" when he does it, but its so personal and targeted and he never says anything sweet or noncritical. he just makes me feel like a piece of shit whenever im with him now. and the fact that iv tried everything to fix it and nothing, NOTHING has worked just makes me feel helpless beyond belief. if it was something serious like he was hitting me or molesting me or threatening me, then i could do something,but its so subtle that hes got me wrapped around his fucking finger. its almost to the point where im scared to be with him. i dont look forward to being with him anymore. i usually think of myself as a strong person that can handle most situations, but im lost now.
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Thinks he makes things better,but makes them worse
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You can call that sexual harrasment and get him off you.
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i dont want to hurt him back tho.
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It seems like it's either that or deal with him.
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You could tell him you no longer enjoy being around him anymore because of what he does... But I'm afraid of what his reaction would be. Plus, I'm not sure if he would even listen because it seems to me that he doesn't listen.Personally, I think you should get away from this guy.