I don't really know where to turn right now. Last week my boyfriend of 2 years told me he had cheated on me..aparently only once, and he truly seems sorry. I'm so lost right now,...i have no idea what to do. I've never been cheated on...i'm 22 and this was my first serious relationship...and its killing me. Will this pain ever go away? will i ever be able to trust him again?? Also, how do you get past this overwhelming, depressing state?? I've gone through the last few days crying, making myself physically sick, and just going throuhg the motions of every day life. Is there light at the end of the tunnel?
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Cheated on and Falling apart
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I am so sorry hun you must be feeling awful But i will tell you now that you will get through this. It might seem like this pain will never ever go away but in time it will. As for everything with your boyfriend, I'm not really sure how much you trusted him before. If you held a lot of your trust in him and was very open with him then and if you can sit down and talk to him about everything that has happened then you may be able to go back to trusting him but i dont know where you guys stand on the trust level. But I do think that you need to talk to him about all this if you already havent. It's important that you two work together through this if you want to keep the relationship going.It's normal to feel this huge amount of pain like you are because someone that you care for a lot has hurt you and it isnt easy to deal with. But you just have to trust that you'll get through this. I dont know your religion, but I believe in God and I think that God does everything for a reason. Whenever something happens to me where i go into a state of thinking i'll never get through this and i have so many tears to cry then i just try to hold my head high, i try to smile because it can warm your heart, and i trust that God will help let the light come shining through my heart again. You just have to believe in yourself sometimes. Just plese try your best not to make yourself physically sick anymore, just try and pick yourself up and if you guys decide to break the relationship off then trust that there is another someone out there waiting for you that will love you as much as you deserve it. I hope that things get better for you very soon..and I'll keep you in my prayers.
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Sometimes a guy has to go on a little bit of a fling to know what he's trully got. If he really is sorry, he will never cheat on you again. I say give him a 2nd chance. But if he does it again, drop his ass like a hot plate, good riddance biatch.And don't worry, there is light at the end of the tunnel.
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hes cheated on you one time to many... drop him.. you dont deserve someone who cheats..
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maybe i'm just being sympathetic since he is a guy and I'm a guy. But pinkranger is probably right.
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what would u do if ur gf cheated on u..read over her post and put YOU in her situation.. cheating is a fucker
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Hi blue_fleeceIf its any consolation blue a new study shown that while men are more likly to cheat on the partner than the girl, he is less likely than a girl to cheat multiple times. So maybe his apology is genuine. But maybe not. We know what he did. And he made a self-admitted error. But have you had time to go over anything in your mind that you may have done that contributed to the breakdown that lead him to look elsewhere for satisfaction? Communication is key here. But wait until you can approach him in a composed and rational manner.Next, whenever I hear of cheating in a dating relationship I would immediately recommend a period of separation. Go out with other guys. Stop suppressing yourself and test other vehicles on the market before making a purchase. You're under 25!!!!!
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my gf did cheat on me .........
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what did u do
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My sons real father cheated on me when my son was 4 days old, i found out about it 6months later when one of his so called friends brought me a picture of them half naked kissing. The funny thing was even with the pic i had he still denided it whah!
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what did i do to cause her to cheat on me. let me think.... we never argued, I never cheated on her, i brought her flowers at least once a week (unless it was a special occasion, i did something better), her parents liked me, my parents liked her. I guess she couldn't handle having no drama. Now she's in a bunch is shiz with this other guy she's with!
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i know i couldnt beileve it myself hes such a liar...thought i stay with him for another week or two then he hit me and my son so i moved thusands of miles away from him he doesnt wanna know baby and im glad cause at leas now i can bring my son up in a good way, with out him seeing lots of lies being told and his family getting hurt all the time.
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no i meant what did u do after she did it
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Well, we were best friends for a long time before we hooked up. So when she cheated on me I started avoiding her. When I finally did confront her about it, I told her that it really hurt and that I was addicted to her and I didn't want to be anymore. She said she was sorry, I'm guessing she was lacking words with everything that I said. So then, before I left her car, I looked back and she had her arms stretched out like she wanted a hug. I gave her a hug, and then I left. She's still a really close friend even though she's with this other guy. I don't think I'll ever feel for a girl the way I did about her her, i guess just because she was my best friend for so long and I know her as well as I do. So there you have it, I didn't really break up with her and she didn't really break up with me. In a direct sense anyways.
I'd give her another chance if she wanted to be with me though.
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shit! he an arse!
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yeah i know he is lol thats y im glad to be with out him now lol