Arright, I'm a senior in high school and it's not even two weeks into the school year and I already have this maaajor crush on this girl. Now a crush may seem like an ordinary thing for most people, but I guess I'm a weird guy, because I havn't had a crush on a girl since the eigth grade...and no, I have never been in any relationships really...ever...mostly parties and late nights...and...yeah...Anyways now that I've gotten that outa the way, now for the question...So...I was walking my dog...around my block one day...peaceful neighborhood and all, very friendly neighbors and down the block I see this girl with her parents outside approximately my age more or less. They were, I guess, spending the late morning outside on their front lawn. Now usually in this day and age, a girl or even a guy would sorta be embaressesd to be seen in front of their parents by another perons their age in their schoolbut it was really weird as I walked past her...she kinda just gave me this really pretty smile and looked at me right in the eye and started talking about my dog and everything...so in my head I'm like...hmmm nice, nice...she even introduced me to both her parents right on the spot which was a nice neighborly thing...I end up going home and a few weeks later when school opens, it turns out shes in one of my classes.We give the hello, and what not, and so far as the year has progressed we've been talking a lot in class...I mean I really don't know her too well, she's in a totally different click than me, but whenever she sees me around the halls or wherever she gives me a reaaally pretty smile and waves...so I guess thats cool. In class during group discussions I'm always her partner and stuff and we just kinda zone off and talk about other things...but one day after class, she came up to me and asked me to go to the library with her and work with her when apparently at the library she really didnt have any work and we ended up talking...right there I got mixed feelings...was this a friendly thing? or was this perhaps an attempt to get to know me better or maybe she even likes me a little? I mean...before we were just class acquantainces, the whole library thing felt kind of like a step foward into something else? I just don't know...like I said, I've never been in a relationship with a girl really...so I don't know if she could be into me or what...so girls? is this normal or is she possibly interested in me?(...oh and btw...i was reading somewhere that if a girl is into you she will sit with her legs crossed towards you...and i looked for that, and the whole time in the library she was doing just that!...lol, so i dunno...)
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Question for the girls...and maybe some guys...
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Sounds like she's into you if you ask me. My personal experience is if you become "just friends" then that's where you'll end up... being just friends and nothing more. I think you should ask her out.
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yeah...its just i get these really weird mixed feelings from her..i mean sometimes they can really annoy me because I don't know what signals shes trying to send me...some days she'll be all into me, other days she won't even talk to me like shes shy or something...idk lately i've been pulling off the avoiding method...trying to just ignore her or put her off like I'm not interested...sometimes when I do this I can see her eyeing me trying to catch my attention or as if shes expecting me to say something to her in the halls or in class or whatever...idk if this is the best way to see if shes into me...basically I"m trying to see if she likes me enough to do something to reaally catch my attention...idk..advice helps lol
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Be confident. Walk right up to her and tell her what's on your mind. If she likes you, then it looks like you may have yourself a new girlfriend. If she doesn't, then you haven't lost much considering you haven't known her for so long. By the look of the situation, you have a whole lot more to gain than to lose.
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Yeah and if you ignore her like you said you kinda were to see if she would try and get your attention, she might think you are ignoring her because you dont want to talk to her... so be careful not to seem rude
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I wouldnt make that much effort with a guy if i didnt like him so go for it! even if you have been readin too much into it the worst she can say is no, and you to seem as though you have formed a friendship... so what is there to lose?!?
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You're bothered by the fact that she’s putting out “mixed signals,” so in response, you sometimes act friendly and sometimes ignore her? That, my friend, is the definition of "mixed signals." Ask her out before she changes her mind on account of your confusing behavior.
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ok, its monday again, and she today once again invited me to the library for our off period together...I, in turn, interjected with the idea to instead, go to lunch...(perhaps a small move on my part), but she said she didn't have enough money, I then offered to lend her or even treat her...but she then responded with the fact that she was only off for a half hour (whereas I was off an hour and a half due to differences in our school schedules) and a half hour is not enough time to go off campus to grab an enjoyable bite.
In the library, we did talk a lot though, we actually found out that we had things in common, here and there I could see her face light up as I asked her about herself and all that bla, lol, there WERE occasional uncomfortable silences...where we'd kinda finish talking about something, laugh it off and not know where to pick up from there...i can remember stuttering for something to say at one point which was really embaressing. Idk, I think that she really might be into me a tiny bit? I'm just a little unsure about the lunch thing and the uncomfortable silences...
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She definetely has something for you. About the silences... it happens to pretty much everyone.
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Yeah, she's almost certainly into you.
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She probably wants to take it slow, be friends first. She might like you more than a friend already, but don't rush things. Just get to know each other better.
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Just be careful that you dont get in the "friend zone" if you know what i mean
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aw man, this is really depressing me. Me and her are just from two different clicks in school, the more i like her the more it seems a relationship wouldn't work, and i mean I'm reaaaally digging everything about this girl, its becoming more than a crush. It just kills me to know that my friends would never like her nor would she like my friends and same with her friends...Sometimes it feels as if she doesn't even like me the way I like her, I might be overlooking things...I know people are urging me to ask her out...but, really its not that simple with this girl, I know i would end up losing friends or becoming someone different than I am now if I were to go out with her...im not sure I'm ready for that...aw man, it's really frustrating and i don't wanna be regret anything, shes such an awesome person, but different...
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Hmm, you're a senior. In less than a year high school will be over, and the cliques there will be in your past. Real life doesn't have the same cliques. You will lose half your friends almost immediately, and most of the rest will fade away as everyone goes to their separate lives and everyone makes new friends.Is it worth giving her up for good, to keep your friendships healthy for another nine months? If you think it is, then probably you should. But I'd urge you to look beyond high school, and consider whether you have enough in common to make a life together outside school or not. You might, or you might not.