My Girlfriend

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Hey people I just want your opinion and see if any of you can help me on this.. Im a 16 yearold male and i have a girlfriend who is 15, The problem im having is that she doesnt put out... we havent been goin out for that long but all we have done is madeout, and we hardly do that, she wont explain to me why she doesnt wanna do that kind of stuff with me she just says "i dont know" when i ask her whats wrong. I am experienced im still a virgin but i have been with several girls and have had oral sex and i really wanna convince my girlfriend to be closer and try some new things does anyone have any tips on how i can do this? I love her very much and i just wanna take outr relationship to the next level.

how long have you actully been together for?? your girlfriend may not be ready and being pushy may make her even more unready. She could be scared to i mena shes only 15 still a little girl really aint she...

"She won't put out" She's 15...she doesn't need to "put out". Leave her alone. If she doesn't want to do something then don't pressure her.

We have been goin out for a month.. I know shes 15 its only a year younger than me dont make it sound like im being a pettifile. I just wanna show her a good time help her experience something new i just want to be a little more closer to her, the way i feel is that i cant just sit down and just wait for her because she wont make the first move, is their any kind of way i can make her feel more comfortable around this kind of topic

sorry but if you ask me i think your wrong like amanda said only 15 doesnt have to put out does she and plus you have only been together a month i think she needs to gt ride of you if you only think about her in that way thats just wrong man

I really love this girl and not just for the sex if i was just with her because i think of her that way all the time then i wouldnt be with her, but i am with her and i plan to be with her for a long time, I love being with her and everything about her you make it sound like im gonna do something horrible and rape her its nothin like that. But i see the point you people are getting at so how long should i wait give me your opinion on that should i just sit and wait for her to come to me?? really what should i do, and im not gonna break up with her because she doesnt put out because im not like that and i thought i would say that because you all seem like you think of me in that way.

if you plan on being with her in the long term im sure you can wait till she is ready then?

how will i know when shes ready? she is a shy girl so she probably wont come out and say it

youll just know i guess dont push her she will back right off you just leave it for a while and when i say while i mean months not days she will eventuly come round and let you know in some sort of way

She may not come out and say it, but things will just happen. Don't push the factor or else you're just going to become another jerk from where she's standing.

well thanks for all the help i just have one more question, this would be best for the girls. What is considered pushing it so that she actually thinks that your a jerk? just explain me a situation that would turn you off so much when the guy pushes it to much

An example? i guess if u kept asking her to/trying to go down on u or vis versa. if ya already asked or tried and she said or reacted like she didnt want to dont push it. she'll come around when shes ready. ya also said that you two dont even make out alot or somthing along those lines so if ya dont even do that... anyways i think if u intend to be with her for a long time (i dunno how long you consider long) you should be able to wait a while- i hope this helped even a little bit :-D

She's 15 man. Give her a break and wait a a couple of years until she's older and more mature.

Noodle dear.....she's 15 and your only 16..why rush?????? I'm not one to pass judgement, after all i lost my virginity at 15. But...do you know what sex at 15 gives you? 2 kids before your 20, lol! Trust me, i know...their 6 and 4 and hun, i'm only 24! Do i regret having sex so young....well no cause regreting what is already done is pointless...to late now. But i DO wish i had waited till i was ready to handle all the responsibility that goes with the pleasure. Hun, your gf is 15....she is way to young to be considering sex, and i for one am glad she is refusing you. You say you LOVE her, do you know what love is? If you love her and want to be with her a long while, stop making "putting out" such a big deal (it's not in the big picture!) And an example of pressuring to the point of jerkdom is....well exactly what you are doing! Wait until she is more mature (and if you care you will), wait until YOU are more mature. Is sex a pleasure? Goodness yes, but not one to be taken lightly. Hell.....I'm having qualms about taking a 20 yr old's (who is very mature for his age) virginity, so the responsibility aspect of it honestly never goes away. Ok, sorry if i rambled a bit, but i felt close enough to the situation (having been 15 and pressured), to give you my $2.50 worth of advice. Be smart and use your noodle Noodle (and not the one between your legs, lol!)