another issue with a friend.this kid who im "rly close" with, and have known and ben close with for about 2 years now, listens to everything i have to say, and everything everyone else has to say. he'll say the right thing or just not say anything if thats what u need, and hes so great. but hes really personal, and doesnt tlk about himself much. so lately i was wondering how close we rly are, and i got kinda selfish thinking like i spill my guts to this kid but why doesnt he ever open up to me? and now i realize this was selfish thinking, and i can accept that. but i read somthing he'd written, and it was like jsut him spilling in one of those public journal things, about how everyone has been pissd at him lately b/c all he tries to do is be a nice guy to everyone and listen to all their probs and he doesnt open up about his own life b/c all ppl want to do is tlk about themselves, but hes more than willing to be there for them anyways. so after reading this i felt enormously guilty and ashamed about how self-centered i'd ben. so i talked to him, but didnt mention any of this, i just tried to be there for HIM this time, i thought i was always there before, but maybe not enough? or what? im so confused. but i think i, or maybe he, or maybe both of us has fucked up our relationship, and i dono what to do, cuz i dont wana lose him as a friend i love him so fucking much.
What am i supposed to say?
I don't think you should necessarily feel guilty about it; just try and concentrate a bit more on him in the future. Some people are just not as open with their problems, or don't feel right shoving their problems on other people. Your friend is like that. So am I. I think you should let him know that you're there for him if he ever needs you. A simple thing like that can make him feel more important and dependable towards you.
m kinda like that guy. but the thing is i ( and mayb he too ) donfeel the need to talk 2 ppl about me. listening to others makes u better at talking with them . and that 'misterious past' thingy is useful if u do stalking