FOrget Kyle, lol. I'm currently dating a guy named Sean right now, he's a senior, i have two classes with him. I told him I want to take things slow, get to know him, so we're realli not bf and gf, but we go out occasionally and yadda yadda. I wanted to kiss him and be intimate with him, but I have one small problem. I can't get over the fact that he has really bad acne. I almost want to tell him to put neosporin on his scars or try Proactiv. He's realli great and I want to further things with him, but I don't know if I can because right now he's not physically appealing to me. Sure he has a nice face besides the pimples, but I don't know what to do. How can I solve this problem without hurting him in any way or embarrassing him or myself? I dunno, I just don't think I can get over it.
-
I know this may seem shallow, but...
-
well... if it was me if just simply ask if he had ever tried anything for hes acne? I mean... it's not a Taboo or anyhting... just ask about it and in the conversation ull find out if he has or not.. and maybe that way u can say like..." yeah.. i noticed that u have some scars even... you know... my cousin tried proactive (or whatever other strong and good prodcuts) and it really worked... it got much better" ...that way you won't be hurting his feelings or anything... just simply givin him advice ---> i did that with my bf who was just a date at the time and it worked... he has no more acne... ---> in fact... i actually went into rite-aid and bought some skin products and taught him how to clean and take care of his skin...hehehehedon't be so afraid of being spotaneous
-
you have to be careful how you tell him, he can end up taking it veeeerrry personally if you bring it up wrong...
-
yeah super careful, that is a sensitive area for most people... And if a girl said anything like that to me, I'm pretty sure i woulnd't be able to talk to them again for awhile...
-
Seems like you either need to risk hurting his feelings by somehow, someway suggesting acne treatment or just living with it. If you find the risk worth it, then go for it. But be extremely careful as the others said. Complexion is not everything.
-
well i think you need to find the right time. Maybe when you meet for lunch or I do not know. I just would want a girl to ask me. Tell me upfront or do not tell me at all. I hate when everything is subliminal makes life hell. I think you are just going to come out and say it.
-
Yea, when I saw him today after not seeing him the day before, his acne cleared up a little and he looked so good I wanted to kiss him. lol. How does this sound though if it gets realli bad again?Hey babe, have you ever tried anything for your scars? If it bothers you you could probably try putting neosporin on it at night. I get really bad scars from acne too and it helps clear them up for me. And if he seems offended I'll just add that it doesn't matter to me, that I still like him but I just thought he might want to know. How does that sound???
-
Not shallow, ONLY if it doesn't get in the way of your feelings for him, And, the only really thing for him to do, is wait. His acne will most likely clear up...as for the scars...neosporin, might not help that much since the scars are preexistent and that should generally be applied while the healing process is occuring. but nothing but time should be applied for the acne.