but now He thinks he has found the best girl in the world.As many of you may have remembered, I'm the man who had an attraction to a girl that had a mongo crush on my best friend(who wanted nothing to do with that girl)...well it turns out...that girl is nothing like she was when we first met...she used to be soo nice and soooo real, now she goes off on me for the smallest thing.Someone I really cannot have in my life with my current mental status.But there is a "new" girl in my life.Not really new, but we have not seen or talked to each other in years. I honestly, stumbled upon her accidently and now, man she is the absolute best person on the face of the earth.I have been in the dumps emotionally after the other girl used and abused me for my kindness.Just talking to this new girl puts the biggest smile on my face.She is the complete package of everything, personality, brains, looks...everything a guy could ever ask for.One complicated issue is, she is very emotionally fragile.I have my own set of mental issues which I am struggling with, this girl is ULTRA supportive to me.She's one of the few people in my inner circle who gets it, because she is the same way.I'm personally not afraid of hurting her, because there is absolutely no possible way I would ever want to/could I ever hurt her.I'm very much afraid however that she will hurt herself(emotionally and physically).I have let her know countless times, that whenever she wants to say something she can come to me with anything and from what I have gathered, she is ever so appreciative.Her problems derive from depression and a fear of losing people.I personally never want to let this girl go, even as a friend, but everyone knows as seniors,some of her and my friends will go away.I don't understand anyone who will want to let go of a friendship with this girl, she is just sooo sweet and understanding.My question is...should I step our friendship up a little bit and start meeting her in person more(we have met once and it is hard because she lives 45 mins away)? Do you all think this would be a good move to help her understand that I never want to lose her? Or do you believe "stepping the friendship up" would only cause her more pain, because we would become even greater friends and her fear of losing me would be greater as well.
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Eggman's former situation went bad...
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Since every situation is different, someone's advice on this matter may help your current status or make it worse. I would say continue as you have and let her know yu're there for her, which might lead to a more "friendly" relationship.
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Like Sexpert said, advice on this kind of thing can result in a better/worse situation depending on what's happening. But I can share with you what happened to me in a similar type of situation.There was a girl and we were good friends. I decided I would take things further and ask her out, ya know, see if she wanted to start dating and hopefully become a couple. Well, it turns out she just didn't like me that way. You probably know what I'm talking about, I like you as a friend but I don't like you THAT WAY kind of deal. The friendship dissolved and it took me years to regain what we once had.If you're just trying to have you friendship become closer though, I think that is a good idea. A lot of times, if you head this route, she may never want to be with you in the couple sort of way. But sometimes it does happen.No matter what you choose to do, it's always good to let someone know you're there for them. Tell her you care about her and no matter what, you don't want to lose touch with her. It's good you've already told her she can come to you for things.I have told a few girls how much I care about them and how I want to be there for them. So far, everytime I've done so, every one of them cried because they felt so loved and the friendship become a lot stronger, even a girl that I had once dated, doing this resulted in a stronger friendship. Whatever you say, make sure it's the truth and heartfelt.
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This is a very fragile situation, as I'm sure you're aware.If she currently has no boyfriend, and you're confident enough, then I'd say perhaps it may be worth trying.However, if she IS currently involved with someone, or even has a crush on someone other than you, I say step away. NOW. I've been in a similar situation and it ended up bringing me close to suicide. Somewhere I don't recommend going.Just be aware of any possible eventualities.
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Thanks for the advice. I don't want to be a couple with her(unless she chose to approach me in such a manner).If she can make me feel as happy as she does by just being friends, I don't want to be anything more than that.I was just wondering if I should get closer to her and become even greater friends :x.
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It think it's worth becoming closer friends. Just make sure if you 2 can't see each other in person, become pen pals or something. Being pen pals can be really fun, I have a few in fact.