THE ONE

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I saw this article basically asking how do you know if the person your with is THE ONE. They use these 10 questions to get you started thinking about it.

1. What is my ideal mate's political position?

2. Are they loud and outgoing or quiet and reserved?

3. Are they a homebody or do they crave travel and adventure?

4. Are they independent or do they prefer companionship the majority of the time?

5. Are they neat and orderly or almost always in disarray?

6. Are they laid back or extremely intense?

7. Are there certain religious beliefs that must be shared?

8. Do you share beliefs, attitudes or hang-ups about sex?

9. How do both of you feel about having children? How many do you want?

10. How do both of you approach physical health issues such as eating, drinking and smoking habits?

Anyways, I thought it was interesting.

so, does your man fit that descrption somewhat?

awsome. I should probably fill out my own survey thing. haha.

Don't care about political position
either outgoing or quiet and reserved is good
I wanna be able to travel and be adventurous
I want companionship, but I can handle independence just fine
Neat and Orderly
Laid Back, cuz I'm very laid back
Don't care what their religious beliefs are
Sex should be something fun
Whether or not I have chidren depends on the wife. But if I do have children, I want a girl.
I like being physically fit, eat whatever, don't smoke, I can't drink but you can! I'll be the DD.

1. My b/f and I see eye to eye on most politcal standings.2) If by loud you mean obnoxiously loud, no way. But I do want for them to be outgoing. I need to at least know he has a life away from me just like I have one away from him.3) Maybe a little of both. I don't mind travel but I want a home to come back to.4) Independent. I don't mind him leaning on me every now and then but if he did it for everything I'd feel like he was being too clingy.5)Neat and orderly please. God almighty I can't stand clutter. Lucky for me, my b/f is very well organized. 6) My b/f is laid back when we're sitting together and just hanging out. But when we're at practice or when he's working as a cop he's very intense.7) We both believe in God and are members of a non-denominatinal church.8) I want to wait until I'm married. My boyfriend has already had sex, been married, and has two kids. But he respects me enough to wait.9) Well, it should be pretty apparent how we feel about kids since he has two and I didn't run off screaming into the night when I found out he had kids. But I want four (someday).10) We both work out. He doesn't watch he eats as much as I think he should. I'm on the Atkins program and losing a lot of weight. GO ATKINS! But he does take vitamins and other stuff. I think we're perfect for each other. lol

OMG, you're with a cop who has 2 kids and was married. You scared me for a second. I thought you were my ex!!!!

Websex - You should look at the location a little faster. he he he (I love Georgia but I wouldn't move there for the world.) I'm 21 too. lol Your ex is with a cop? Who's been married and has two kids also? I thought I was the only one with problems. (I would advise people NOT to date cops. As the g/f, I'm constantly worried out of my mind...not that I'd ever tell him that.

yeah. My ex is only 17. unfortunately the whole police force found out and he was fired from his job. So i guess he's an ex-cop. The time that they found out they were together was while he was at the police academy. So they told him he had a day to get out. She lost her job as secretary and the Sheriff's Office.So yeah, that in itself is a big mess. Not to mention so much other crap. I like to think she needs me, but I don't think she'd appreciate me sharing her story with other people.

So I take he is quite a bit older than she is? My b/f is 15 years my senior. (yes, that would make him 35 :wink:) A lot of people had a problem with it but I looked at it like I was old enough to make my own decisions and this guy was and is someone I care about very much. I can see why they had a problem with your ex though since she's under 18. I personally don't have a problem age differences because to me it's just not something worth worrying about.

yeah, he's 28. He's 11 years her senior. The thing about their relationship is that his wife and him are separated, but she won't sign the divorce papers because she won't get as much money if they're divorced. So not only is this 17 year old girl with a 28 year old cop, but they're committing adultery at the same time. I've tried to talk to her in leaving this guy because there's so much risk involved. But she let me know she's aware of the consequences. Despite my concern, I feel that I've done all I could. So now I'm just standing there watching, waiting, and wondering what will happen.

Well, you can get a contest of divorce (or something like that)and she doesn't have to sign the papers and the two will be divorced even if she doesn't want to sign the divorce papers. A lot of people would consider that adultery, some wouldn't since he's not happy and she's not either, she just won't give him a divorce. My theory is this: You have one life and you need to do what makes YOU happy and not worry about everyone else. When you do that your world start to look a lot better. If I cared about what everyone else thought my b/f and I wouldn't be together because very few people support me and my b/f's relationship. Your ex probably feels the same way. I just don't understand why people have a problem with age differences that are kinda far apart because you can't help who you love.

I'll tell her about the contesting the divorce thing. She's not in love with him, she just likes him, but now that I know she understands what might happen and everything, I'm trying to support her on everything. In fact, we just spent 4 hours together just talking and chilling out. I feel like our friendship is closer than it ever was before. Things have went well with you and your man, so I'm hoping she'll be happy with whatever she decides. Thanks for the help.

Before I met him I was completely childish. Then when I met him it was like a whole other side of me came out. Things work well with us is because we make them work. We don't argue over stupid things. We never leave an argument still angry, we always work it out before moving on. And we realize that we're not always going to agree and that we'll have to agree to just disagree and come up with a compromise. We have a lot in common and we're both comfortable around each other so our fights are very few and far between but when we do fight we never let it get the best of us. Despite the age difference, most people are starting to come around and are getting used to the idea that I want him around for a long time.

Sounds like a good man to me. Out of curiosity, why did his wife leave him?My ex is one of those girls that can walk into a room and all the guys just kinda sit there staring. She's really beautiful. Pretty face with one hell of a body. Somehow it's got around that shes a goddess in bed, and she is but I avoid saying anything about it even to my friends. A lot of times in the past guys used her because they just wanted to sleep with her. Whenever they figured out she's not that easy, they just left her there. So I've become a little protective of her. I don't plan on letting down my guard, but I have eased off a little bit. Hopefully this guy isn't using her like the others.

He says that for the last three years that they were together he was kinda suspiscious that she might have been messing around on him. She filed for divorce and I guess used "irreconcilable differences". Anyhow, almost immediately after they were divorced she shows up with this other guy that he thought she was cheating on him with and low and behold here's another twist that makes it look like a soap opera....the guy his ex-wifey is seeing - is MARRIED! Ugh!I don't turn heads when I walk into a room but his head definitely turns and that's all I care about. He's seen me at my best and worst (and I work with him so he's seen a LOT of it) and loves me anyway. (If you find someone who still finds you beautiful after you've just had all their wisdom teeth out and your face looks like a giant bubble and it's all bruised and nasty you found a keeper...lol) So IMHO she left him because quite frankly - she's nuts.Oh yes, he's a very good man. I don't know many people who can juggle four jobs, serve his church, practice martial arts, two kids, school and one g/f And do it well. lol

What can my ex's bf do to have his wife get a divorce? I mean, is it a state law? Can he get divorced without her signing the papers? I believe they were wed in Florida.