Cheating (Number 2 I suppose)

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Well... here's the story....My gf was found by her parents in thier house around midnight a few weeks ago.... there was a guy there also, and he was zipping up his pants... she had messed-up hair, and all of the pillows on the couch where on the floor. So... there's more, but the thing is that she keeps telling me nothing happened, and I believed her at one point in time. I called her friend today, and asked her what she had been told... she told me that my gf had told her that the guy and her had been making out... she(friend) said that later she said "Well it doesn't matter anyway cause we're taking a break"... and stuff like that... (I was never told of this...)So anyway... I'm devastated... I have no idea what to do....

Ok... well I'm not finished.... I think she loves me. I love her... but I can't stand this... I keep woundering what the hell she was thinking.. Was she thinking of me and just decided she didn't care? Did she think of me at all? I'm not sure which one is worst... We've been together for a year and a half now... I love her so much, but I don't know if I can get over this... This is tearing me in two...

i would have to say talk to her first then if you dont get a appologe or the truth id end it theres no point in it if she is gonna cheat on you all the time.

If she was making out or doing something else with another guy then something in the relationship is seriously wrong.

Hi Sci,Yeah, listen to Fluffy. Before you make any rash decisions confront her with what you know. Then watch her reaction.Also how old is she? And how old are you?

yeah you really think that if she loved you she would be messing around behind your back??? break up with her, you deserve more than that. it sad but you cant carry on, what if she does it again??? she will think she can keep doing it coz u keep forgiving her. sorry hunny hugs

There's a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. It sounds like she loves you, but isn't in love with you. And you are in love with her. I know how it feels to have someone you are in love with cheat on you. Probably one of the worst if not the worst feeling in the world.You need to talk to her though. Communicate with each other and tell her you didn't understand when or why you two started taking a break. Trust and honesty are 2 of the most important things you need in a relationship. Tell her that, feel where the conversation is going, and determine where to go from there.

Well... I've finally accepted the fact that my gf for 1 and a half years has lied to me out her ass, and cheated on me in some way/degree... I think I'm past the mental break down part of it... I hope anyway... I still can't keep from almost crying... but I'm not trembling as much as I was the last week or so...I can't talk to her right now, as she's having problems with her parents and such.... and I'm not sure when I'll get to contact her next... but when I do, I'm giving her a chance to tell me the truth... and I'll make a descision based on if she can do that or not... If I don't get any contact from her for some time, I'm saying forget it... I told her I'd always be there in these situations where we can't see eachother for long periods of time... but at the same time she's fed me a bunch of shit lately and I can't stand it... I love her with all my heart... but trust is very important... and the thing that pisses me off the most is that she's been using my trust as an anti-confrontation device. I don't know if I can ever forgive her... but at the same time, I love her so damn much... I never even saw this coming...I think at one point in time durring her time cheating, she told herself she couldn't do it... that thought makes me thing there's hope... but at the same time she's been lying to me about the entire situation which almost hurts just as much.It's hard to cope with... I can change the hurt into anger... but I'm left with nowhere to direct it... I don't wish her any harm, and I still fear for her wellbeing as I havn't been able to contact her for a few days and she's going through some shit.... (But now that I think about it, most of what she's going through spawned from this act in some way or another...) All the same I love her...This has got to be the most awful feeling in the world... I can't sleep...(something I had trouble with before all of this...), I can't eat... I'm going to try but I feel so sick to my stomache..., and I can't think of anything to do to make it better... especially since I can't contact her atm. Her favorite quote is "Trust is a weakness; betreyal is the hidden blade."... isn't that ironic...------------ Ok there is a better post... I wrote all of that this morning for a different board, but just saved it as I felt I should post it here instead... tell me what you all think.

Ohh sorry if there where any "bad" words... I'm really upset, and that post was originally ment for a board that didn't care about such things... Sorry