I was planning to buy my son a Maxim (spl?) subscription what he was about 14 and playboy when he was 16. I'm totally cool with masturbation. His, mine, and everybody else. Do you guys think this is okay? Any better magazines to use? I don't want to give him anything to raunchy. But just something tasteful.
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Your thoughts....
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s better if his dad gives it 2 him. ull just say its ok. and just tell him sum good free porn sites (ask me ) ... hell get more pics than from a magazinebut playboy or penthouse are ok. how old is he ? -
Maxim is not porn. But I don't understand your reasoning for this "need" to supply your son with porn. Kind of odd comming from a female.
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He's young, way to young to need this now. But I'm a planner. I plan everything out as far in advance as I can.And about the giving it to him. That's why I was just going to leave it on his bed. That way it doesn't come FROM anyone. It's just there and he can use it for whatever he wants. Besides when he has questions, even about sex type things, he comes to me. I keep the conversations open and light. Better he gets advice from me than his buddy at school.I know Maxim isn't porn. I'm not wanting to worp the poor thing. And I'm talking about giving to him that at 14.As to my "deisre", I know way too many people that feel bad about masterbating. I think it's perfectly fine. I want him to feel comfortable with it. And why does me being a woman make this strange? Do you think women don't masterbate? If it's not strange for a man to do it why is it strange for a woman?
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And why does me being a woman make this strange? Do you think women don't masterbate? If it's not strange for a man to do it why is it strange for a woman?
take a break
it`s easyer 2 talk about this kinda stuff with "daddy" or a bud @ school. and sure as hell it`s weird to get porn from "mommy"
cut maxim out and just give him his playboy @ 15
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I'm not talking about masturbating. I'm talking about feeding him porn. I know we all look at porn at some time or another, but it seems odd that you as a mother and woman would want to instil the concept of women in porn as a piece of meat that you can jack off to.
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Some sons have a better relationship with their mother's than father's. My boyfriend is prime example of that. He'd rather talk about sex any day to his mom than his dad and seeing as she doesn't have a problem with it, there is no problem. I don't see the need for children to go to same sex parents or guardians for answers. Kids should feel comfortable talking to either parent.You can speak for yourself with it being easier to talk to "daddy" or friends, but not all sons have a father they can go and talk to. A mom is just as supportive.
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well , my parents got divorced and i live with my mom.
but it`d be weird to get porn from u`r mom -
Yeah, i think this is a little wierd. Masturbation is a natural thing and he'll do it with or without the porn. Do you feel that giving him porn is letting him know masturbating is OK? If anything it's giving him a false idea of what 'girls' his own age are really like. I think you should hold off on the porn. There is plenty of it on regular T.V. these days.
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You have a point, it would be uncomfortable for a lot of guys living with only their mom to get porn. Doesn't mean a mother shouldn't though.
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Okay let's start off explaining the dad situation. His real father is not really in his life. Doesn't call write anything like that. And I doubt my son would ask him personal questions even if he could.
Step-dad is very loving and would answer questions if asked, but would rather my son came to me for questions.
And because my son and I have always had good mother son bond. He feels comfortable asking me about whatever is on his mind. I don't love all the questions he asks and it's sometimes hard to answer them. But I do my best to give him the info and guide him without being judgmental. Am I glad he comes to me? Absolutely. Do I hope he continues to come to me for answers? Absolutely.
As to "instil the concept of women in porn as a piece of meat that you can jack off to". You've admitted to looking at porn. Do you see women as a piece of meat to jack off to?
I don't get you. Are you implying women are victims in pornography? I feel every woman has a right to do with her body whatever she chooses. If it makes her happy to share it, more power to her. If it makes her uncomfortable, great she doesn't have to share it. And she doesn't need someone to tell her.
I really appreciate you guys giving me input on this. It's always help to hear other's point of view especially when it differs from your own. -
In reply to:Do you see women as a piece of meat to jack off to? I don't get you. Are you implying women are victims in pornography?Do I? No.. but I'm sure many do.Victims?? Many are.
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that kinda shows u`r son`s got sum communication problems with his step-dad
maybe it will help if to improve theyr relation if his step-dad gives him the porn
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lol Bonding through porn. I wouldn't have a problem with that.
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hehe .. u got any porblem , jus aSk^ Ghost =))
( u can edit your posts to correct spelling or add things)
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See, that's what is wierd. 'WOULDN'T' have a problem bonding through porn. Who the hell at 14/15 sits around looking at porn with their mom? Good communication is great! If you wanna be helpful, teach him about safe sex.
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I meant I wouldn't have a problem with his step-dad giving it to him. Bonding through porn was funny. Not serious. I couldn't imagine looking at it with him. It embarrasses me to talk about the clinical drawings. You know the ones in the puberty type books. And we have talked about safer sex. In fact that's how he got on the subject of sex. He saw a commercial and wanted to know what AIDS was. Which led to more questions.
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well im 18 now, and i think it would be cool if my mom did that. although i think it would be better if she told me about it, rather than leave it on my bed, or else id think someone is trying to frame me or catch me or something like that. but yea, i think its a great idea! just tell him about it and tell himthat masturbation is OK, although akward, it will make him feel like he can come and talk to you when he has a serious prohlem! id say maxim @ 14 and playboy @ 16 or something....but thats just mny 2 cents anyway...ur a cool mom! lol id think getting him magazines like that is probably better than him getting actual porn movies from his comp, if that so happens, especially since its not porn. and unless u raise him in a cave, chances are he may get the message that women are objects or whatever, so it would be best if u gave him the magazines and explained everything...i think that would beenfit him most, i probably wouldve preffered if my mom did that actually...
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Man, where do I start..... Well ilikekisses, I am very proud that you are at least thinking about all of this, and really trying to plan ahead. If I were in your position I would definetly get your son a subscription to Maxim... but I don't know If I would just give it to him. Give it as a birthday or christmas present or something where you can tell him something like "I saw this and thought you'd like it." Just give it to him and just make it seem like you don't know (or dont care) that there are half naked women in it. Luckily when I was 16 I bought a 3 year subscription to Maxim, and it's a great magazine for teenage boys. I finally got over the fact that they (maxim) edits all the nipples and bush shots out of their pictures...of course now I'm 18 and can go to the porn store and get something good Anyways, about the playboy... It would be pretty cool to get a playboy subscription at 16 from my mom, but every time I'm jacking off I'll think that my mom got the mag for me, so it would unfortunatly be kind of weird. I can't believe I'm saying this, but I think you should just get him the Maxim, and let him get the porn on his own. Take it from me, something about finding your parents/friends parents porn is just way more thrilling than having it handed to you. I really hope this helps in the final decision!!