How can I get my wife to understand my fetish?

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Hi all, I'm new here and hope everyone can help me with out being to critical. This is the first time I have ever told anyone this.My fetish started when I was young, I had this curiosity about womens underwear, I thought it was so much better than boys underwear, softer, more styles, and felt better.I know a lot of boys go through this stage and most of them grow out of it but I didn't, I continued my intrest in panties and bras. When I was young I had some that I would wear around the house, usually only to bed, but sometimes under my cloths around the house but nobody else knew about it. I would wash them when no one else was home so no one would find them. And I would hide them im my room so no one could find them. I never wore them outside the house because I was afraid someone would see the bra lines or panty lines and find out my secret.Fast-forward to the present, I'm in my late 20's and married. Recently my wife was cleaning house and somehow found one pair of my panties (she didn't find the whole stash) and was pissed. She though I was cheating on her for the longest time because I was afraid she would leave me if she knew the truth. Well I finally told her the truth and now she dosn't know how to feel. She thinks that somehow this means I'm gay but I have told her a ton of times I'm not and have no desire to be. She also thinks I'm gona start crossdressing but I have no interest in doing that either, she dosn't understand that I don't want to wear skirts and dresses, there not comfortable to me. The only thing I like are bras and panties and I don't know how to help her understand it. I think if she were to accept it we could have fun with it in the beedroom and I have fantasized about going bra and panty shopping with her.How can I talk to her and let her know how I feel and help her understand my fetish?Thanks so much for the help.

I don't think it's strange. It's not an uncommon fetish. I think if you want her to be supportive of you, you'll need to be supportive of her. Give her everything you're wanting from her. Tell her you know it's a little strange, and you understand that she's feeling uncomfortable. But you're hoping that someday she maybe will be okay with it. Trying to force it on her isn't going to work. Its funny how there is a double standard. It's sexy for women to wear men's clothes, but unacceptable for men to like women's. Good luck to you.

In reply to:Trying to force it on her isn't going to work. I don't want to force it on her. But I would like for her to try to understand. If she dosn't than I can understand. It just means I have to were them when she's at work and I'm home (like now) and take them off before she gets home. In reply to: Its funny how there is a double standard. It's sexy for women to wear men's clothes, but unacceptable for men to like women's. I have thought that before. I even said the same thing to her, she likes to walk around in my boxers but It's not right if I walk around in panties and a bra

I'm just curious, but what exactly is "comfortable" about wearing a bra? I'm a chick and can't wait to take mine off when I go home.

It's hard to explain. When I first started wearing bras and panties I really had no interest in bras, they were uncomfortable. I just really liked the panties. But as I started wearing bras more and more, I started to really like them. When I lived on my own for over 2 years I would wear one to bed every night, unless my GF was staying over. And now I just don't feel right if I'm not wearing one, I feel kind of naked, I know it sounds weird.
My favorite are underwire because they feel like there doing what there supposed to. Because I have been wearing bras for so long (I started this when I was about 13 or so) my brests have actually started to take the shape of females brests and I can sort of fill out a A cup.
And its for this reason I won't go with out a shirt in public.
Plus bras just look really good, there sexy in just about any form. I love my Victoria's Secrets push-up, they look so sexy and feel good to me.

Yes it does sound wierd, but eh, I'm not going to knock you for doing it. I think I have trouble understanding if it's a fetish or if you do it out of comfort. I think you use the 'comfort' story as a rationalization for you to wear women's panties/bra's.

I'm not going to knock you either, but there has to be some underlying Freudian reasoning here... because obviously this doesn't land anywhere in the "normal" or "average" category.

To be honest its both. On the one hand I find them (bras and panties) really comfortable to were. There soft and feel good, better than any boxer or tighty-whitey feels.On the other hand I get turned on by them and not just if I'm wearing them. If I see a women wearing their underwear it turns me on so fast, and when we go into the lingerie department of a store it drives me crazy. I get turned on thinking about how good they would look on my wife and on me.

Wearing a bra isn't going to make your breasts grow, however, age will give you "man boobies"

I like wearing a bra. I hate the way it feels to be out and about without one. But I have boobs, they are average when I 'm not breastfeeding a baby, but it's still uncomfortable to me to have them swing to and fro. lol

I wear a C...and mine bounce. If they "swing to and fro" than they're just fat.

breasts are fat

just tell her what you need. my wife jams toys in me but it doesn't make me gay, obviously.tell her that you are wearing HER underwear! let her know it's (at least a bit) about her.

It's not that odd at all.
My boyfriend and I were in the hot tub one night and just for no reason we decided to switch outfits.
He put on my thong bikini and I put on his trunks... then we had sex like that. Ever since then, we can wear eachother's cloths for fun whenever we want. Sometimes I'll be just sitting around and he will walk in with some of my cloths on. I don't think it's strange cause I can wear his cloths whenever I want. I think it's cute of him.

In reply to: Wearing a bra isn't going to make your breasts grow, however, age will give you "man boobies" Its not that they have grown, but they have a form to them that men usually dont have. She says she kinda likes my "man boobies" and she does like to have fun with them in the bedroom.And thanks everyone. Her and I had a long talk about it a couple nights ago and it really helped. She is still freaked out by it but she said she will be more understanding. She isn't ready to see me in them yet but will be one day, which is fine because I would probably be a little embarrassed the first time.She asked if I was willing to try the sexy mens underwear (like the silky mens bikini briefs) and I said I would give them a try but I don't know if I can find anyone that sells a "man-zier" LOL But again thanks for the help everyone.

i've never met a woman who loves the feeling of a bra

I love when girls say that, my ex used to come home and take her bra off right away... it's a beautiful site

I'm with ya there brother. I've always enjoyed the "undo it and take it out the sleeve" trick. Of course it's better to just hall the girls out and bring 'em to the party!sorry... sidetracked