I was wondering why most, not all, guys are jerkoffs? I mean a lot of guys will to shit to piss people off on purpose, and they often mistreat their girlfriends. Do guys do this to prove themselves to be macho, or is it just in their nature? I know women are definitely not perfect, but men don't seem to take other ppl into consideration as much as females. Someone pleez help me to understand.
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I don't mean to be mean, but...
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Because a lot of women like guys who are like that.
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That's the thing, i'm not trying or meaning to be big-headed or anything, but i'm not like that. I mean I would do anything to make my girlfriend happy. I really don't understand why some boys mess around with their girlfriend. Just like I don't understand why people cheat on eachother It's just not right.But I guess I agree with Websex, I don't know why but girls always go for the 'wrong' guy... It's like there could be someone who's in the relationship for one thing (A) and hasn't got a good reputation at all, then there is someone who has got a good reputation (B) and is in this for a nice long-term relationship... Who does the girl choose? (A)
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Just exactly. Not all guys are jerkoffs, its the fact that girls are attracted to them that makes every guy they notice one. Whether they like it or not (or even admit to it for that matter), most girls like that asshole crap and don't notice a nice guy when he comes walking by. Therefore, if you don't notice a nice guy, all the guys you do notice happen to be assholes.
And I know I'll probably have a few girls try to refute this and say "Well I like nice guys." And you might, but the truth of the matter is that MOST girls like guys that treat them like crap, otherwise my friend Matt would NEVER have a girlfriend. He treats women terrible, and yet they flock to him.
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I guess what the problem is is that there aren't too many guys that are balanced. They're either too emotional or clingy, or they're completely unable to express themselves. We want a guy that can take control but also step back once in a while to let a girl take control. We want a guy who sticks up for himself but also doesn't push people around, including his gf, just because he can. And remember, I never said women were perfect. It's just really rare to find a balanced person. And in a way, some women might misinterpret cockiness and bullying as a form of confidence. Some guys are just so sweet that they're insecure with themselves.
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Sometimes it seems to us guys that girls want to have their cake and eat it too - they want both a quality and its opposite, and they want to see only the side they feel like seeing at any moment. It's a bit of a hard ask.
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i agree, i think the only guys you seem to gravitate to are the jerkoffs and jackasses and just plain asses..I'm willing to bet that if you looked perhaps, right in front of you, metaphorically speaking, you'd see a nice guy, that you may really enjoy being with, but i doubt you'll even look...
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i think that the jerkoffs are attractive because of their confidence, not because they are jerkoffs. a confident person is very attractive, male or female. then once you're with them you tend to project good qualities on them even though they're not true. and you kind of make excuses for the jerky stuff. then there's the ego thing "i'm dating the most popular guy in school". hopefully one day you wake up and see the truth, that the guy (or girl) is really not a nice person and doesn't treat you well at all, and you dump them. or you just keep dating them hoping they will change because you love them/they "love" you.i also agree that seeing the nice guy/girl right in front of your face is hard. that takes a lot of maturity and self confidence...to really appreciate a person for themselves first instead of their looks/popularity.
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What I'm talking about is when guys act like they don't give a shit about a girl's feelings. They act like they shouldn't have emotions b/c guys are incapable of having them. After I broke up with my boyfriend, he knew I was having a tougher time with our breakup than him and he called me overemotional even though I never cried in front of him or went into a rampage while talking to him. And no, I haven't dated just jerkoffs. I've started dating guys who I thought were genuine and nice, but they turned out to be dipshits as well. It's hard to tell if a guy is really nice or if it's just an act to get the girl. As it turns out, my ex bf treated me great until a couple of weeks into the relationship. You guys are getting way defensive by the way, and I already stated this clearly. I'm not meaning to offend anyone, and I know women are not perfect. Honestly, how many girls do you know of are unable to show emotion? hardly any. HOw many are really emotional and cry about nothing? probably most of them. Women aren't balanced in that way either, but in the end women care more about hurting people's feelings than men. What I was saying was that most people, not just men, aren't balanced. My question though was for the guys specifically because I already have girls figured out, I want to know how the guys' brain works. I gave the women's reason for not being interested in nice guys, so I wanted the reverse. What you guys are telling me is that you weren't born assholes, you adapted to what you thought women want, right? I highly doubt that. And personally, I think it's stupid guys act like assholes just to impress. Who are you acting macho for? Girls don't appreciate that in the end when they're trying to get to know you and be with you. They don't want to be told to shutup or have their bfs cheat on them and then compare their breast sizes with the other chick.