Ok heres how it is. Ive had lots of relationships with girls. Almost all of them have ended bad. Im 15 and Im still young I know. But I want a longer term relationship. The thing is that when I go up for band practice with my friends, I always meet women up there. The place is 40 miles away and Ive already tried dating one girl up there. We lasted about 3 months and I ended up cheating on her probably because I never saw her. My parents wont drive me up there that often...maybe twice a month at most. And when Im up there I want to make the most of the time and have band practice with my best friends. Now there are 2 other girls who like me up there. Both of which are awesome. I met one while playing a show and another just randomly. Should I start dating these girls or just tell them I can only be theyre friend? :confused:
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What should I do?
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My advice to you would be to try to start a relationship over e-mail. A lot of people think it's crazy but it's also becoming more and more popular. My aunt got married to someone she was e-mailing. It seems like the ones who hook up that way are a lot happier. Also, make sure you're looking into the girl's personalities rather than they're physical attraction. Hence the reason why e-mail is so frickin' awesome. You get to know the person's deep personality cutting through all the BS. Write each other an e-mail a day if you can. Pen Pals are fun.
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I take it there are girls where u actually live right? At your age i think the e-mail approach wont work well because your limited to the distance these people can be from you and you can never really be sure who your talking to on the internet.How come you live so far away from the people in your band? Where u from like? As in country?The girls up north, i wouldan't look at 'em for long term relationships coz of the distance and your lack of ability to travel up. Mind you they could be good 'distractions' whilst your up there, you can use 'em to hone ya skills a bit and for a bit of fun.There must be some girls where u actually live who you can impress and get into a relationship with, usually long-term relationships will mean you'll need to see your girl at least 3 times a week, maybe more when u first meet, so your gonna wanna be close.Asside from that, y'know what they say practice makes perfect. Oh, and don't come off looking needy, respect yourself and others will respect you.
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Are you saying to USE them? Practice makes perfect by USING someone? That's messed up!
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In reply to: usually long-term relationships will mean you'll need to see your girl at least 3 times a week, I see my boyfriend once every week- once every 3 weeks, and we've been together for 9 months and are very happy together.
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You have to be pretty needy or have commitment issues to NEED to see someone at least 3 times a week.
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Well if youre going to cheat on them, be their friend with no intimate connections.
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dude, you just told us that you dated a girl there and didnt see her much and cheated on her. And your telling us now that you want to see one of two girls up there when you very well know that you`ll fall into the same situation...come on dude...