Kids

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I want to have kids and so does the guy I am talking with now. I knwo my dad doesnt like the idea but it's my life. Should I do it or listen to my dad?

depends on how old ya are, how stable your relationship with this guy is, and if you can take care of the kid(s) after birth.

I am 19. We have a good relationship and i have had a daughter before. I lost her in a car accident.

That's really sad. I'm sorry. But I wouldn't recommend having another child yet to take the place of what you lost. You are still young and have time. I would recommend that you be in a committed relationship (marriage) before you think about having more kids.

Thank you. If my dad had put it like that I would have understood him better.

I'm glad I could help.

Don't ever think that having another child will replace what you lost. There will always be a hole in your heart no matter what. Have another child when you are ready and want it. Love it as you did your first, but you will alway remember what was taken from you.

Are you out of your mind?!!!!! 19? I have two things to tell you. 1.) When I was pregnant with my son I kept thinking about how much work a baby was going to be and was I really ready. (I was 21 and married.) THEN I had him. OMFG I had NO idea of how much work it would be. And I'd baby sat A LOT. You just don't know the amount of stress and work that goes into taking care of your own baby. It’s a baby that doesn't go home at the end of the day and stays with you all the time. Even when you're apart you're thinking about their well being.2.) I have a rule I tell my friends that are married. Give yourselves at least two years before you have kids. You can never go back after having a baby. And I swear they have a sex radar. I don't care what rooms you or they are in they sense an orgasm coming and HAVE to cry. lol Best birth control ever.

Well she already had a baby, so I would think she already knows.. right?

She should have waited for my reply. lol

Did you read that it was killed in an accident?

Where does it say that?! That's really sad. R U trying to make me cry?

In reply to:and i have had a daughter before. I lost her in a car accident. OK silly woman.. what are you reading? Do you read posts in flat or threaded mode?