Me and my girlfriend have been going out for months now and she was my special girl and she revealed to me her darkest secret that she has already had sex with another guy, and when we first started going out she told me that she was a virgin... I feel physically sick.. I just cant imagine her with another guy, even though she did it December last yr.. I cant cope with it we were meant to be 2 virgins in love. I told her that it didnt matter and that she was still a virgin in my eyes and other stuff to make her feel better about bringing this up again but Im so dissapointed that she didnt tell me when I asked her, and I feel ashamed because shes younger than me and shes gone all the way before.. I feel so terrible and frustrated inside why would she tell me this? I would have rathered her keep it in until we atleast did it once it wouldn't have affected me so badly... I cant even look at her properly anymore.. She just seems so innocent and looks like she doesnt have a clue about sex or anything.I was crying after I got off the fone to her.. I wanted us to be special I dont know why but Im really down about this. Can you guys say something? I wanna know how you guys are about this? Am i over reacting or what? I am so misserable because she told me this....
Feeling like shit b/c Girlfriend issues
I understand that you had this image of the two of you doing things the first time together, but if you really like her then you need to get over it because it will you you no good in your realtinship if you pout over it.
Yes, I ditto the reply. Don't self-destruct and internalize the situation!
There's nothing wrong with her having sex before you. MOST GIRLS DO!
I feel that she REALLY values this relationship and was just trying to protect your emmotions. That, in my book, is caring. She is worth pursuing.
BTW sex , in a relationship, is not the center of the universe. It's what's between the ears, in the long run!
I've bedded about ( I'm not bragging but being honest) 107 women,in my 52 years, and my Russian wife (45) she says 19. All of that means NOTHING compared with what we have now.
You have to have the mental more than the physical!
i dunno im prolly just over reacting.. i just wanted us to be special hey.. she said that she didnt want to tell me coz she knew id get like this, and she said she didnt know why she did it she said that the guy was older and kinda pressured her until she gave in.. Seems a bit silly to me but atleast she wont bleed the first time i do it with her i keep picturing her and then I just cant place her having sex shes too child like and she cant even hardly kiss properly and shes done it all before me. i feel like a bit of a loser maybe ill get over it
DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! You care for her? Deal with it! If you can't (terrible word) then move on. There's "Plenty of fish in the sea." You will probably be involved with many relationships, in your lifetime, so be patient. It has been said that every man has ruined at least three women with stupidity and every woman a man, at least twenty, with her heart. Be cautious, be brave and most of all be caring. The previous sex problem is no big deal. You'll get over it and I'm sure she will too. It happened and it's in the past so, move on with your special lady and enjoy your moments together!
107?????? That's, um, gross. no offense but I really wouldn't be proud of that if I were you. Hope you've been checked out.
This all makes me think of something I went through about 20 years ago. It was the first (not the last) time I was crushed by a girl. You’ll get through. You might even look back and laugh.Take care of your self! I made an attempt at the time that was the first but not the last. I’m married to my 23rd lover and there is little I would change.