Okay I am sick of this

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Recently I decided to stop looking for girls to date like a dog, and I have focused being a really good friend. I have been friends with Tara, just cause she has problems with drinking and do not want her to be left in cold (it can happen), but anyway....I have just as equally nice to all my friends and now she wants to go out. She called me to tell. I am not sure what to do b/c I still care for her, but I am not sure...I am so confused....So what should I do?

Don't go out with her unless she agrees to get help. You are not equipped to help her and being her bf isn't going to help her it will only bring you down.

No they are not serious problems. I had worse problems then her, and I found the will in myself to stop....She is getting there, and I would make sure that any friend of mine gets help.But should i take her up on her offer? Is it possible she is realizing what kind of a guy I really am?

Look you can do whatever you want. I'm just telling you what I think. I don't think you should. If she's going to get help she can do it w/o you being her bf. You can support her as a friend. And if she gets this all worked out then you guys can hook up. But you might cloud things for her by being her bf. You'll be taking the focus off of what she needs to do and putting it on you. If you really care about her wait. If you care more about you then go for it.

Okay, thank you ilikekisses.

Don't mention it. Hope I was helpful.

Could this be a rare case of the nice guy winning?

I do not know, but this chick has walked on me before...I am gonna have a very serious talk with her.

Ya know you guys can be so dumb sometimes. Did it ever occur to you that you may be lacking in some area, that you aren't in fact perfect? There has to be something wrong with the women because they aren't dating you. It's a twist on if she won't go out with me she must be a lesbian. And that’s a bunch of crap. If you aren’t getting a date look in the mirror instead of at the other person.

I know I am far from perfect, I usually think it is on my end before I think other wise...I never said it was her fault, but she did walk on me. I have changed myself since we last "went out." I found flaws in myself and changed, for some reason i was more selfish, but I have changed that and have been more helpful and willing to help others.