Well as it turns out, my mums been going into fostering. Shes been 'dieing' to do this for ages now and it seems she has sorta gone for it indiscriminate of the way i feel :-/. Dont get me wrong i dont reckon its a bad idea its just I dont think shes got the right perception of it all. She will be fostering kids from 7-16 years old, with various backgrounds. When i was interviewed for this (to test if i am 'compatable') all the worries that I had came up during the little questions and answer round, but they were never resolved, like "What if one of the kids started to hit your mum what would you do?". Problem is i feel that i have to run through the hoops cos my mum wants to do this but im just not sure if she has got the like right scope for this and when i ask her about it its always, "Come on blah blah blah you know its what ive wanted to do for a long time" and its like how do i get past that stage without being an ass :|. What should I do ? and what do ppl think about this, always good to get a spread of opinions.
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Fostering
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I'm sure this is going to be very hard work, and much more difficult than your mother thinks; but it's something she has always wanted to do, you can't stop her, so you have to accept it and support it as best you can. It may be that one difficult foster child will change her mind; but perhaps she'll be better at it than you think. I knew one guy whose parents did it on a large scale, with four or more foster children (plus their own children) at any one time, over many years.
Questions like the one you ask about "what would you do if . . .?" don't really have a definite answer, because it depends too much on the individual circumstances and the child's personality. If your mother was in danger of real injury, though, you would restrain the child if you were able, and if not, call the police.