How can you tell if one or more of your parents is drinking too much? Sometimes one or both of my parents, usually my mom, acts very strange, like she is much dumber than usual. She annoys me immensely cause she acts like one of my high school friends. This is especially irritating when I am studying hard and she keeps hassling me in a playful way. Usually alcohol is nearby, perhaps downstairs in the form of a third beer, or wine glass. Tonight, both of my parents were not acting themselves, they seemed a lot slower. I don't know if I am just overreacting to this, because one parent I can deal with. Two, I almost walked out of the house and went to my friends house in disgust. My mom started letting things slip also, such as my dad going shopping for christmas presents, and trying to call him with me right there because she remembered something I had wanted. I mean it was just strange, and I feel like it is not just a normal "parental slip". I feel bad for being disgusted with my parents, but I don't know if this is a byproduct of excessive drinking. Some other points of view would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.
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Parent issues
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It sounds like they might be drinking a bit. You could give them home breath-testing kits for Christmas as a subtle hint.
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Yeah, perhaps I could, that would definitely get their attention.
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If drinking is the case, that is very dissapointing and irresponsible of them. Not that good of an example they're giving you either. You should really take action. It may seem hard, but a detailed, direct conversation about the issue when they're sober (or acting normally) would probably be your best bet. If you're unable to do that, subtle hints as to showing them you notice something's wrong may work (such as Ineligible's suggestion to give them a home breath-testing kit for Christmas) Good luck.
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Try to contact ala-teen. They will undoubtedly have more experience in this field than most of us on here. I mean a lot of us have been where you are, mine was drugs and alcohol, but we may not have the best answers for what to do. I moved out when I was 15. That isn't something I recommend.http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
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Hmm i know what you mean. Its not your fault that you're mad at them, who wouldnt? You are actually a really responsible person to be acting like this, that you arent following their example. My parents drink, but not excessible and only at parties and such. However when i was seven or eight i had been taught that second hand smoke was dangerous, and my parents were smokers since their friends were too. I then took action by asking them to stop. They hid it from me for a week and a few days, and i saw them doing it again and i got mad. I was (and still am) a more accellerated child in education although lately i have to pick up the slack. Anyways i had gotten pissed, and i knew where they kept their cigarrettes and i just broke them in front of them. They got angry and start yelling "whats your problem, why did you do that?" and i screamed back "you promised you would stop" After that they quit for sure, and with hardly and of that nicotine patch and anything. I dont know how they managed to do so but they did, and they smoke around once every two months with friends and stuff. And even then i hide the smokes so that they run out and they dont smoke anymore. Anyways after this long story i just have to say you should take control. I was brought up catholic, honor thy mother and thy father but selfly converted to christian with a bit of catholicism in me. To me its more of a un-stressing religion and thats why i did that. The child shouldnt always have to live in the shadow of the parent because the child soon becomes a parent.