I recently moved away to university, just before i left university i got back together with my ex boyfriend who we had been on and off for ages, but together for about 2 years - when i went to uni we ended up splitting up cos i didnt wanna go home every weekend and then i met someone else, i am really really happy with my new boyfriend. We have been together for nearly 3 months now. And he is really perfect for me, we get on so well, and we spend so much time together and i really cant describe how he makes me feel. it cant compare to my old relationships - i just feel so happy with him. Then i came home for christmas, and my ex said he wants to try and work it out. of course i dont want to, but i dont want to hurt him even more. Because he was like the first long relationship i had is this why i feel like this? and is this why i still feel some kinda thing for him, only as a friend though. Its just that previous to university, we always seemed to end up back together, but i get the feeling it was more of a safe relationship - does anyone know what i mean?I really am happy with my new boyfriend and wouldnt want to lose what we have, because everything is perfect, but i still have some kinda underlying feeling of something, im not sure what, for my ex. i think its just because he was such a massive part of my life for so long. Does anyone know what i mean? all i want is someone to let me know that they get what i mean!?!
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Does anyone know what i mean?
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I do get what you mean.Personally, I believe if you have strong feelings for someone of like or love, the feelings subside but never truly leave. This "underlying feelings for him" are normal, since you say he was such a massive and extended part of your life. You don't want to hurt him, so you really need to tell him of your new relationship soon. It'll hurt him more if you keep it from him.
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I agree with WeirdGirly. It's your life and the old part is over. He needs to overcome this and you need to communicate this to him so, he can move on and quit doting over you. You owe him this much, after such a long relationship. He will always be a part of you and a rememberance, for the rest of your life. Be honest and explain your intentions. He will understand, if he has brains. BTW, not to impune, but you're in college and spell the way you do?
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" BTW, not to impune, but you're in college and spell the way you do? "If youre talking about slang, or whatever, why does it matter its only the internet? just to defend myself. thanks for the proper advice but was the other bit needed?
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Actually the word is spelt "impugn". :smile:
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lol. thanks for correcting him. its so silly! arrrgh! people.
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Every love story unfolds, learn from the faults, and move on from the pain. No one creates your destiny but yourself. I understand your situation. If I were you don't go with your ex. You heard this a million times. But if it was myself. I like learning the hard way. If you go with your ex, you still break up. U learn that you lost something good for an illusion.This will help you get over that guy completely or a lot. If you choose to stay with your perfection. Then you have chosen the easier path because you will not experience pain or loss, instead you gain a lot more from choosing this situation. I've been in your situation..guess which one I chose? haha...do I regret it, terribly! However, I've learned to be a strong woman, men are never worth my tears..those that are...truly left a great impression inside me. I hope you know that the bases of a relationship is always trust, respect and loyalty!Never regret, its a waste of time.