Im 16 years old and I made my girlfriend pregnant. She was taking the pill because her parents are quite open and both know we have sex (even though they don't openly say it). We are in a serious relationship and have been for three years.I always used to have sex with her without a condom because she was taking an oral contraception, but she got pregnant just two weeks ago and we don't know how to go about telling our parents.I know its going to be hard but we don't want to have the child aborted because we are both christians and don't think its right.
Making a girl pregnant
you gotta tell them , there`s no way around. as soon as possible
There are only three choices of what to do.
1.) Abortion (which you're already decided against.)
2.) Having the baby and raising it.
3.) Having the baby and putting it up for adoption.
All three are hard choices to make. No doubt about it. I think you need to go and get both families together and have a talk. If they are supportive, then they can help you make the decision that is right for you. But if they aren't supportive, then the two of you will have to make the choice on your own.
Please note. The sooner you tell them the more choices you'll have. If you wait until you've started bonding with the baby you will not be able to live through one or two.
I had an abortion when I was 18. I am fine with my choice. I don't think abortion is the right thing to do in all cases but in some it is necessary.
As to how to tell, in my life I have found if someone starts the sentence with, "don't be mad" I never am. I don't know if this works on everyone. But it's worth a try.
Tell both your parents and her parents. With their help, you can come to a decision of what you're going to do with the baby. I agree with not aborting the baby.
I dont want it aborted (and neither does she) and I don't want to give it up either. I just could not live with myself knowing a kid of mine is out there not knowing who I am or who its mother is. Also what would happen in the future when I have more kids? They would have a brother or sister out there that they don't know.I would rather quit school and work as a trash collector and have my own kid with me and not someone else.
don`t you like the word abortion ? we can change it .. or maybe change the "method". what about a really strange accident ? OD ?
just kidding =))
there`s no way around the parents. you gotta tell them. and tell them you want to keep the kid. maybe at the begining they`ll be shocked and try to convince you to abort. just keep strong and eventually they`ll get to support you and everything`s gonna be ok.
I admire your attitude, mattsta. There's no easy way of telling the parents. Get both of yours together if possible, in a setting where other people can't overhear. It would be best if both you and your girlfriend were present.Prepare the ground: say something like "We have something very serious to tell you". That makes it easier for them to take the news. Then tell them, and at the same time tell them what you intend to do about it. "(Your girlfriend's name) is pregnant. We intend to keep the baby. If I necessary I shall leave school and take up what work I can get."It's unlikely that you can get all four parents in the same place under suitable conditions, so you'll probably have to do it twice. Make sure you are there when your girlfriend's parents are told.All the best to you!
I have to say I so admire the way you think about the fact that your girlfriend is pregnant, and it does happen even when using contraception...I was on the pill when I had my first, using condoms when I got pregnant with my second, and back on the pill with the third one.......they were just meant to be!Good luck, and I am sure that the parents will admire your views too......once they have got over the shock of finding out, and hey you have to expect that they will be shocked at first.........but once the idea sinks in - hopefully it will be a fantastic thing for everyone concerned - Good luck with everything hugs
its admirable that you arent freaking out and demanding that she have an abortion. now, how to tell you parents? just do it. if they knew you were having sex, they must be willing to accept that there could have been a chance that she could have gotten pregnant, eventhough she was on BC. it will be hard...but just...sit down, tell them that you have something that you all need to talk about (having both sets of parents there at the same time might help, that way you dont have to explain twice) and just tell them.