Other women

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How do you deal wiht your boyfriend being friends wiht other women? I mean, everyone is fine with it but what if he goes out with women he has just met instead of doing something he has arranged with you? how are you supposed to feel? because I feel angry and jealous... and he can't seem to see why.
Jay

if he goes out with women he has just met instead of doing something he has arranged with you, then something`s not ok with you 2

Thing is, he went out n we had a tlka about tht, but thn these girls he doesn't really know invited him shopping tomorrow, and then like, as an after thought he invited me so I can "get to know them" I'm kinda stuck, do I go and end up feeling bad all day? or stay at home and wonder what he's doing? he reassures me that he's not doing anything and that he loves me but... I can't stand the thought that THEY might want to do something.... :/

u sure as hell go with him and have hell`of a time

have a hell of a time? how can I? I mean, the only thing I can think to do is dress up and show these girls that he's mine. but if they start doing stuff yanno... flirting I can't very well tell him I want to leave. then I'll seem like the bad guy again.

I don't see the problem. I go shopping with girls other my girlfriend. I have girls in my cars all of the time and my current girlfriend doesn't care. It's all about trust. Trust si the key to every working relationship. My girlfirend doesn't even care is I buy some of my girl(friends) clothes or lunch. I just don't see why you should be any different. Would it bother you if you if he went shopping with guy? What the difference going with soemoen of the opposite sex?

Has he broken an arrangement with you to hang out with other girls? If so, I see that as a valid warning sign. If he hasn't then ... next paragraph...From your description of your relationship it seems there is a personality conflict. The conflict is that your somewhat of a jealous person and he's not. If I'm wrong, then dismiss what I'm saying. But if I'm right, then you must know that the conflict of the two traits will rouse its ugly head every so often. In which case, you either learn to deal or search for someone else that provides a "more friendly", and perhaps a more compatible, match with your own personality.

whoaa ... you sound like PIMP big time

well... I went and the girls were quite nice... I@m trying not to get JEalous all I the time, I see I shouldn't be btu I jsut end up feeling like that and I can't stop it, we jsut have sucha great time when its just me and him and I jsut want to keep it like that! I've never been in a serious relationship before and not alot of people in my life have shown me love like him, I'm jsut so afraid of loosing him.

Jealous? Possessive? Demanding? Wow, you are kinda scary to a young guy who doesn't want to be pinned down right now. He is "NOT" your prince in shinning armor. He is playing the field right now. That's what guys are genetically prone to do, at an early age. He will settle down when he decides to do so. You can wait or move on. It all depends on how much you can put up with!

so you think he's playing the field? meaning... he doesn't want to be with just me? why is it he doesn't love me like I love him?

That's not necessarily true. I'm a young guy, 16, and I'm interested in a relationship that will or could go long term. I have yet to have a girlfriend, although there's one girl right now who I've been crazy over for the last 4 months and I've yet to ask her out. My point is that not all guys "play the field". I'm the kind of guy who'd rather wait for someone who I truly like and am interested in, and even if I didn't go serious or anything right away (which I really don't think I would), I wouldn't be interested in anyone other than her.

My boyfriend says he doesn't want anyone else, he assures me over and over about it, I'm just paranoid, he lvoes me, I know that... I jsut can't get over the feeling that he's gunna leave me, whether its true or not. I don't wanna think that he's playing the field but if he is do you think I should leave to get on with it?

Your viewpoint will change after yuo get canned the first time.

I've had my heart broken before thank you very much! I'm not completely naive! I had been dumped and I've been in a very bad way before, I'm not trapped in an idealistic world where everything is peachy, I'm jsut a bit worried.

Buying other girls clothing sounds a little sketchy to me. What, do you watch them come out an model them before you buy them? I know if I went shopping with a bunch of guys and they were buying me shit left and right, my bf would get jealous. I think she has the right to be a little worried. Guys are natural womanizers...enough said. It's almost impossible for the opposite sex to hang out and not have thoughts about one another in that way.

I was afraid of that!

The only way you can tell if he is doing something is to get to know the women he is doing this for. I know if I had a girlfriend I would not mind helping my female friends shopping, paying for their clothes I would refrain from, unless it was an emergency situation.

And another thing, i would imagine that by you going shopping with them would only put you in an akward position. You might feel like you have to compete, and when you're in a relationship, you shouldn't have to. Ya know? Sure every good relationship is based on trust, but there are different levels of trust, and you can't completely trust an individual. It's impossible.