Alright ill try to keep this as short as possible.Last year, when i was in grade 10, i really REALLY liked a girl in our class. I made the mistake of telling someone i shouldnt have, and after about a week i found out that he was giving hints to her about someone that liked her. Then me, figuring that it would be better if she heard it from me instead of him, went out for a walk and told her that i really liked her, to which she said that she wasnt ready to get into something like that yet.Apparantly people, including her, thought that i had asked her out, when all i had meant to do was tell her the truth about what i felt. This lead to the whole thing getting really complicated and embarrasing, and i barely spoke to her for a while because i was too nervous and shy to say anything (thats kind of the way i am i guess).Now, about 8 months later, i hear that she would have might have been more positive about starting something, if it werent for her dad, who she thought wasnt ready for her to start getting into the whole relationship scene (im not sure if that part is true or not, i myself dont really believe it but hey its a hope). And to make things worse, i sit beside her every day for 2 periods, basically in awkward silence.So what am i supposed to do? I still really like her, and right now Im way to shy to try and start something, even casual conversation because im pretty sure that she hates my guts, even though everyone tells me that shes a really nice person and that she really doesnt mind me that much. So... How should i go about doing this? I have no idea about how this works, so any help you could offer would be greatly appreciated.
What to do, what to do..
alright ive had something just like this happen to me and i really messed it up. i didnt do n e thing then a couple months later i was really upset with myself. what you have to do is get the courage up to start just talking to her like she was n e one else and then try and build a freindship. if it is that her dad was anal than she might be feeling the same way as you. so this should make things better between the two of you either way.
Dear WYWH,Parents can be a very tough obstacle in any relationship. Even when a couple gets married, there are still very many situations where parents do no agree with their son or daughter's decision in choosing a husband or wife. Since you are still under the age of 18, and the girl is also presumably younger than 18, her parents (dad) are legally responsible for her. Therefore you can see why it is not unreasonable for her dad to be so strict. Not to mention that her dad is concerned for her well-being. Unfortunately, when it comes to the topic of dating, changing her dad's mind is out of your control, and is up to her.If you still would like to continuing seeing her as friends (or eventually more), you will need to take that leap foward and treat her as a friend. Start talking to her again. You say that you sit next to her in two periods, perhaps you can take this chance to ask her casual questions. Don't worry about "sounding dumb" or "looking nervous." You can ask her about how her classes are, which movies she has seen lately, or if she can help you with a homework problem. More topics will spawn as you talk, and before you know it, you'll be talking with her like you would your best friend. I know that you may think that all this advice has become "cliche," and "this is what everyone says," but talking to someone is the best way to let him or her know that you are interested in some sort of relationship, be it for friends, dating, sex. And she does not "hate your guts," as you so say. It's natural to feel that way, but unless she is a rotten person simply by nature, it takes a lot for someone to truly hate another. Best of Luck,Dr.SL