Extreme sexual frustration.

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You could probably look into the art of meditation. People who can meditate properly can suppress a lot of what they're feeling, whether it be an insatiable thirst for affection or physical need.

Your life is not worthless.

A youngish looking 18 year old will not do. He is still a man, and I am not the least bit attracted to men.I'm not attracted to all boys either... I have selective tastes. And it is not just physical attraction when it comes to boys. I love everything about them. I enjoy talking to them, listening to them, and just being their friends. But the my sexual needs as a human being are still there and they are taking their toll on me.I feel like I should end contact with the boys I know, not out of fear of hurting them, because I would not do that... but out of a need to get away from them because it is tantalizing just being around them.I like websexinfo's suggestion of getting into meditation. I think that's my only real option, which is what I was leaning towards when I originally posted about becoming an ascetic or a Buddha.Thank you Amanda for saying that my life is not worthless, but it is very difficult to believe otherwise.MCA

Well, it's not an option for you to sleep with young boys. And it's good you realize that. But, some people go thier entire life without having sex. And thier life is not worthless. My mom's cousin, for example, has never had sex or been on a date. She is 40 something. She is severely overwieght. I mean her wieght is a part of the reason, but even big girls/guys get laid. So, I think there is more mentally there, that is her reason for not having sex. And I'm sure she's really curious and has the desire also.My point is, that it's possible to never have sex. You just have to figure out other methods for release. I think alot of people have "Takin' one for the team" and slept with someone they are not physically attracted to. So maybe you could sleep with a woman/man for some kind of a tension release.

I believe I have an answer for you.Firstly.... let me say this. In your younger life you have had some form of experience (good or bad) take place.This experience whether good or bad has caused you to be attracted to a certain type of human being. You are now stuck. What you need is a stronger experience which will overtake that one you now have.Desires can change.... they can change by stronger experiences which we have in life. What I am saying to you I have proven in my own life.I am not normally turned on by dark skinned females. Why.... because I am not exposed to them enough. However, if I was then I would be so attracted to them. How do I know ? Because the Eddie Murphy movie I just seen "Coming To America' had the most gorgoeus dark women. If I was exposed to those type of women more and more.... then they would overtake my current desires.

I am attracted to a certain type of female now which I know can change if I have a stronger experience which will overtake the one I have now.

A bigger wave overcomes a smaller wave. (what I am saying is extremely brief) for I could write a whole thesis on it). The type of experience you need I do not know only God knows that.

What I am saying I hope that helps.

also.... your current desires are fueled by vision. The vision you have on the inside of you. You have been meditating on a particular vision which has been making you miserable.A new vision can come by a stronger experience. A new vision will change the patterns and combinations of brain neorones (brain cells) in your brain.Again I say.... I do not know what form of experience will do it for you. God only knows that.I can give you a few practical tips.Do not go look at pictures that will fuel your desire. Try and find a substitute.... do something else in your life....ie.... make friends..... get involved in something you may enjoy doing.now you may say... yeh.. yeh.. I have already done that..... yes... but this is only preliminary..... it may take a while but one day as you are doing these prelimanary things.... you give yourself the opportunity for a stronger experience to overtake you.When exactly will the stronger experience take place I cannot say or how it will take place I do not know.

Hope this makes sense. Bye.

Dear MCA: My heart goes out to you. I wish that there were a simple solution for your problem, but in the present climate of hysteria, as regards adult-child sexual relationships, you will need to protect yourself. Some years ago, as a member of a social club, I became acquainted with a certain middle-aged fellow. After a time, when he apparently felt comfortable speaking with me, he confessed an interest in boys similar to yours. Though I had learned to trust him, and admire him (he was an artist), I was troubled by his admission, as I could only suspect how fraught with danger he was condemned by his need for contact with boys. As I neither shared his predilection, or understood much about it, there was little that I could do but to encourage his finer instincts. Hence, I maintained my friendship, in addition to commissioning a work of art from him. Out of gratitude he gave me a miniature nature study, which is still on display in my living room. We lost touch years ago, but I often wonder what became of him.Since then I have had, curiously enough, almost no contact with this subject until this moment, and during the past few weeks, while reading a biography of Alfred Kinsey (Sex: The Measure of All Things, by Jonathan Gathorne-Hardy). The biography doesn't devote much space to this subject, but what is discussed may be of value. I'd encourage you to read the book.Some of the things which Kinsey encountered while taking histories shocked him, and adult-child sex was one such. He learned to be tolerant, however. As time passed he began to noice that in histories with child 'abuse' the subjects of it disapproved -- but actually in their cases it had done little or no harm. He noticed how it was often the poor, unloved boys whose only affection came from such contacts. And there are cross-cultural examples which support his stance on child-adult sex. Until very recently, the military organization of the Zande in central Africa, where homosexuality is widespread and accepted, allowed their soldiers to take boy-wives, sometimes as young as twelve, often for years, as a matter of course. It was not regarded as remotely wrong or disgusting. The same sort of thing was true of the armies in ancient Greece, in Sparta and Crete. And throughout the Middle East, particularly in Morocco and Egypt, young boy prostitution has been common for centuries ... and is still.It should be emphasized that Kinsey was fiercely opposed to any use of force or compulsion in sex. Neither can attitudes and customs from Africa or ancient Greece be transposed into North America or Europe. The trouble with adult-child sex, as everyone knows, is that it is almost impossible to know when pressure has compelled children into acts they didn't want. You certainly cannot take the word of paedophiles. Kinsey would be as appalled as anyone by the number of horrifying paedophile cases being unearthed today, but he would also be conscious of some of the classic signs of a witchhunt ... the isolation of paedophiles, reviled by gays, heterosexuals, lesbians alike, the forgetting that they are also human beings. The air of general hysteria, the mere fact that everyone is against it, would have irritated Kinsey and brought out again, as it did in his own day, that pugnacity that is probably as much at the root of his attitude as tolerance. Kinsey, who often looked to Europe for a lead, would also have taken note of the much more relaxed attitude in one European country. In the Netherlands sexual intercourse, homosexual and heterosexual, is legal for and with anyone over 12, provided there is mutual consent. 'Child abuse,' said the Amsterdam police spokesman Klaas Wittin in 1990, is not a problem in Dutch society -- three, four, five cases a year.' Child-adult sex is complicated, and perhaps violence is more common today. Large age differences are more dangerous, too. However, the age of consent in many countries (as in a few states in America fifty years ago and in Spain, for instance, today) is twelve. I believe that in Great Britain and in other European countries it is 14 for heterosexuals and 16 for same-sex relationships. The United States almost stands alone in its extreme conservatism and fear of sexuality.Korydon

In britain the legal age for people to have sex is 16

Thanks everyone, you guys are great.

I guess I am just going to have to accept this somehow. I have done some searching around on the net and I came across a support forum for guys like me.

I hope I can post the link here as it may be of benefit to someone like myself who has nowhere to turn for understanding. Don't worry, the site isn't illegal, as they do not advocate sex with minors.

http://boychat.org

I hope some people will go there to try to understand guys like me better.

There seems to be a 'pedo-hysteria' going on right now. It is difficult enough to be denied love, nevermind having everyone hate you because they assume you're out to wreck their kids' lives.

Please don't be angry at me for posting that link. I just want to show that many of us are decent people who have to hide our true selves and this hurts so much. We are in such a hopeless situation. We are not inhuman.

MCA

Have you considered becoming a eunuch?

Have you ever considered castration? seriously. It is a medical procedure and relativly painless, dogs get it done all the time. It takes your sex drive away so that your thought isn't of young boys. Please consider it for the safety of our children and yourself. That is the only reasonable solution in your case believe me.

I know what's going on;some sick weirdo comes and arouses everybody'ssympathy for him by stating how miserable his life is and how he can'thave sex and pretends that he can't tell you why to arouse more sympathy,then,after making you curious and very anxious to know why the hell he can'thave sex,he tells you of the desire which he has been suppressing for years and how it has frustrated him.After you all sympathise with him and try tohelp him,another comrade weirdo(or may be the same person wih a different nickname) replies with a long article advocating paedophilia and how naturalit is and how the society is very conservative for not allowing paedophilesto fuck young children.It's the same thing with gay actvists who are popularizing homosexuality everywhere,in the schools,on the media,on the internet,and everywhere.They are trying to convert everybody into a fag.Even bestiality is being advocated allover the net nowadays.I know many of you might accuse me of being a conspiracy theorist,but I believeall of this to be a conspiracy to spread immorality everywhere.I don't know whoor what organizations might be behind it,but I cannot ignore all what I seeand act the stupid.I say,STOP FUCKING WITH OUR MINDS,and you sick paedphiles,if you have an urge towards young boys,seek counselling,masturbate,do whatever suits you,but do not fuck our children.

MCA - If you're still looking at these posts. (Let us know if you are. That would be helpful.)First of all, I'm gonna assume that you're legit and what you're saying is legit. I'd rather err on the side of trying to help someone who's not serious than deny someone who really needs it cause of the slight chance they might be taking us for a ride. Call me crazy...Second...I honor you for speaking up and sharing what you did with us. I hope that, with one out-of-line exception, you found people here to be compassionate and helpful, as opposed to the condemnation and hate you were expecting. You are right to take whatever steps to avoid having sex with boys. Despite the propoganda I just read about how it is acceptable in some countries and not harmful (most legitimate scholars stopped taking Kinsey seriously years ago), It is wrong and harmful and should never be done and always be prosecuted.That being said, I understand that this is a desire you have little or no control over. There is a huge sense in which that is not your fault. Even those who want to approach it from a conservative religious perspective, the bent or desire to do something is not wrong, only acting out on it. I think there is hope for you. Lot's of hope. I deal with a sexual addiction myself. Although I'm not attracted to children sexually, there are a lot of commonalities with all addictions. I would really strongly suggest that you enter into a counseling relationship. It's confidential and incredibly helpful to have a qualified professional you can trust.Another thing, if you've got the time. There are a couple of great books you might want to look at. The first one is Don't Call It Love by Patrick Carnes. He is probably the best source for knowledge on identifying and beginning to deal with sexual addictions. The other book is called Growth Into Manhood by Alan Medinger. It is based on the idea that distorted sexuality usually happens because our healthy sexual development was somehow stunted at an early age. He shows you how you can actually go back and develop in the ways you weren't able to before. Caution: He does take the stance that homosexuality is wrong. If you can live with that, it's a great book. If not, you may still find it helpful.I feel for you. I'm sad for you and want you to know there is hope, even if that sounds impossible. Please feel free to PM me if you wish for whatever reason, and I may even give you a ligit email address. I'd bet others here would make the same offer.And if you're no longer checking in on this board...well...at least I got to practice my typing.