Hi, im 15 years old and ive never had a girlfriend (kinda wierd i know =) But there's this girl in my spanish class who's called me "cute" a few times and has even said "you're so adorable, i love you" but she seems waaaaaaay out of my league. For one thing, she's a year older, and she is possibly the hottest cheerleader ive ever seen. In any case, this was my plan:I'm going to light a bunch of candles on her front porch, ill wear a tux, ill have a bunch of roses, and im getting my friend's band to play the song "First date" by blink 182 on her front lawn, and Ill be singing, you think she'll say yes?pls answer asap kthx
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Not sure if i should ask her out
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I'm not sure what she's going to think... but good luck! If it doesn't work though, take a break from the romance movies.
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Dear INeedToGetLaid,Before you perform such a heroic stunt, have you talked with her? And I don't mean talk to her about the stunt, I mean talk with on very casual topics, such as movies, school, homework, and sports. How much do you know about this girl other than "she's possibly the hottest cheerleader?"It has been my experience that when girls say things such as "you're cute," "you're adorable," these are nothing but mere words. However, every girl is different, and she may actually want you to advance. I am simply saying that most girls do not mean anything out of it. But, take a look at the way she acts towards you. See if the way she acts is the same way she acts towards other guys.Fifteen is a delicate age to be when it comes to dating relationships, and a sour experience may discourage some. However, there is nothing to be worried about. I have been fifteen before, and there are plenty of board members who have either gone through or are going through what you are feeling.Lastly, think about how you would react if a random girl you didn't know too well suddenly showed up at your doorstep with flowers and a band. Pretty scary right? It puts you in a situation where you are flustered for words, and you might not know how to act. Don't rush it. Get to know her better first. Don't worry, nothing good gets away.Best,Dr.SL
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good idea with blink, cuz blink and sum kick ass. but it
s just a date. bunch of candles ,tux ???? just go ask her, dont make it a big deal. -
I think you need to rethink your plan. That sounds waaayyyyy over the top to me. If you were dating this girl for a while I might say ok, but this is not the move you want to make to ask a girl out. This could definitely freak her out.
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Honestly, the "stunt" does sound more fitting for a marriage proposal than a casual ask out.
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yea you guys are probably right, it may be a bit over the top, o btw Dr.Strangelove, yea we do talk a lot, we're pretty good friends
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Hopefully you haven't been sucked into the friend zone. It may help if you first ask her if she thinks of you as possibly more than a friend. You can work your way from there.
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stop using the word "aSk" , both of you =)
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But... but... this website is call "afraid to ... ya know"
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right the friend zone, whats the friend zone??
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INeedToGetLaid,There is a website that dishes out a good explanation on how relationships between men and women work. Among the various topics is "ladder theory," which can help you to understand what the "friend zone" is.The Ladder Theory Dr.SL
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Aight, well my girl said yes today =) be a niiiiice long 3 day weekend with her.To you, A LOT of girls say im cute, or hey hotty. First doesn't mean they want anything more just throwin stuff around, or are just flirting around (you WILL notice most cheerleaders are VERY flirtatious). But i could always be wrong, i would talk to her (what i ended up doing, and worked out for the best). What is her favorite movie type? then movie? or favorite food? Need to know things for a date, like probably our first date will be just a nice sit at home DVD watching time (loves comedies and hasnt seen anchorman, napoleon dynamite and her fav movie is Miss Congenality(sp) so we will have a movie night) nothing special just takin what you learned from her and putting it into effect (shows you pay attention to what she says and not just stare at her body =P). On that, talking to her will be your BEST bet, if she likes to bowl ask her if she wants to go bowling this weekend, or something along whatever SHE likes to do. I would NOT do your ask out plan. My craziest thing for my Exgf was on our 6 month anni was a limo ride to a very expensive restraunt and a spa day. Nice plan. worked in the movies, dont see it happening in RL. Anyways if she says yes then awsome no, i bet there are other girls that would go out with you, just explore.Also the friend zone means that she considers you no more then a friend (how you would consider one of your gal friends no more then a friend) and that normally locks off most chances for something more.Sorry if i got a little off-topic.~john
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John, that helped a lot, o and btw Dr. Sl the ladder theory page was quite interesting
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No problem, now whats annoying is when she doesn't answer her phone and your trying to get this weekend planned =P.Gl to you~john
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The Ladder Theory site is hilarious. The first couple of pages I thought, this is BS. Then I got to the construction of the ladder part and it just left me laughing.
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In reply to:
right the friend zone, whats the friend zone??
Let me tell you, there are two zones. You have the Friend Zone, and then you have the Dangerous Zone. Friend Zone = Guys you can goof around with, casually flirt with, hang out, just generally do all the stuff you do w/friends. Dangerous Zone = Guy that you wanna (to put it a nice as I can) see naked among other things. Of course people can bounce from zone to zone periodically(ms).
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In reply to: Of course people can bounce from zone to zone periodically(ms). yeah, if they are a whore.
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In reply to: Dangerous Zone = Guy that you wanna (to put it a nice as I can) see naked among other things. That's not necessarily true. Two Zones: 1) Friendship 2) More Than Friendship, meaning more intimate together..