Intimacy-Cuddling.....are the two one in the same?

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I am going to list some things I have done in the past with a person I am interested in who has a gf that he says he loves very much and sees himself marrying. Please tell me what you think. Is there nothing between us and its just me? Or does my friend just have to convince himself that he loves his gf but really has SOME SORT of feeling for me...here we go:

Constant tickle fights....lasting long periods of time, sometimes in public, most times in private. Ending up sweaty and hot and just kinda laying there side by side...oh yea, and a couple of times he got hard by it...lol

Sharing the same bed together on a trip where the gf was not present, and cuddling. Spooning together all night, his arm around me, and even asking at one point "am i making you uncomfortable?"and once i said no he just continued to have his arm around me and tickle me gently when we woke up the next morning. (he got blamed for cheating b/c of this btw...even though no kissing or anything like that happened)

Us crying together in each others arms when our best friend died...and us not really crying to other people.

talking until wee hours of the morning...im talkin like 4 am sometimes, even 6 am once.

him saying he can see himself with me, and even telling me that if he wernt with his gf, he could see himself with me...also telling me that his parents love me and tell him that we should date. they dont like his gf btw...

doing all sorts of activites together...just having fun with everything and anything we do

us spending all of our time together when he is in town.

okay...im done cause thats all i can think of, and please remember, he has been with his gf for 2 years, says he loves her, talks of his future with her. but to me it seems like he feels he HAS to convince himself of this...there seems to be more feeling there than us just being friends. anyway, answer to the list everyone, pleeeease, i need help with this to make sure im not the only one who thinks what i think

Ok well thing is from everything that you have said you can look at it in 2 ways:YES he does like you, and perhaps doesn't want to hurt his gf's feelings.andNO he only only wants to remain close mates, BUT suggesting that he can see himself with you leaves another door open.Maybe you should ask him? Not suggesting anything like break him up with his gf to go out with you, but just simply ask him how he feels?

seems as though he wants more than he shouldits not fair for him to do this to youi do not see a happy way out of this situationi was in a very similar situation, there was no happy ending. but i stayed around for 1-2 years, wasting my time with this other girl while she had a bf that she loved and said she'd never leave.i wasted so much time, dedication and love that i shouldnt have bothered with.dont waste your time on someone who won't commit to you. you know you deserve better

that sounds like the things i do with my best friend

He's not being fair to you. From what you described, it sounds like you two are just good friends. It also sounds-for lack of a better word/phrase-he wants to "have his cake and eat it too." How can he speak of how much he loves his girlfriend, speak of their future together, and then say he could see himself with you? It just doesn't add up. You need to ask him who and what he wants, because if this continues, I think you'll end up getting hurt.

I had a similar experience myself, except the she had the boyfriend. We did the tickling (I got the erections :blush:) and we cuddled for ages. But then it just became too much, and it ended so badly, I feel alienated from her now.

All I can say is try to find out how he really feels about you, and work from there.

In my eyes, here's the situation. He likes you, but he already has something good with his girlfriend. If you have something good, why spoil it? Probably the main drive of staying with his girlfriend is the time factor. They've been together for two years and he KNOWS her.At this time, I'd like to note that the situation, and therefore my advice, would probably be completely different if it were... guy likes girl but girl has boyfriend. In this case it's... girl likes guy but guy has girlfriend. Why is this so? Because guys and girls think differently. But as always, there are exceptions.Back to the dilemma. If things continue as they are...A) His girlfriend won't be able to handle the affection that is going on between you and her boyfriend, she will break up with him, and you two may very well hook upB) You will get tired of his indecisiveness and move on. This will either relieve the strain on his relationship or he'll realize he had some hidden feelings for you and didn't know until you were gone, at which point he'd chase after you... I wouldn't count on it though. Romance movies like to exploit it all the time.C) He may feel as if he's not being loyal enough to his girlfriend and ask that you two stop seeing each other as much. Some kind of inspiration or enlightenment has to take place for this to happen, from having a fight with his girlfriend to it just hitting him.There are more, but these are probably the most likely to happen if things continue as they are. Meaning you won't confront him about anything and be "just good friends" while waiting patiently. This route can equal big losses as far as time is concerned, yet the chances of success is larger.Then, you can take the express route. Confront him about the situation and make him choose. You can do this bluntly or you can egg it on for as long as a couple of weeks. This route an equal big losses as far as how you feel is concerned. It may take you as little as a month to as long as a year to get over it. The chances of success less than the patient route, but at least you'll be moved on from the dilemma.Inevitably, someone will get hurt.