How do I make him want only me?

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Guys, what can a girl do to make you want only her and for get about all the other hoes out there? What can we do to stand out? Be completely honest.

Everyone tends to have different personality types that they're attracted to, but something that I can say would attract most guys is to be sincere - be yourself. If you want to stand out in a positive way, then do just that. Be kind to others, especially those who haven't done anything not to deserve it. I'm not saying to let others walk over you, because you should be confident in your thoughts and your judgement, but show enthusiasm where it counts rather than acting enthusiastic about the things that don't really matter since you may be just trying to play the part (one reason so many people seem to act the same when they're together, and maybe it's just me but I'm not usually interested in one person from a group of girls that are always acting exactly alike).The girl I like is a great person. She's extremely nice, has a good personality, she seems to just be herself - just like the other girls I liked in the past, except I haven't had nearly as strong of feelings for anyone as I've had for her. She's athletic, smart, kind of shy, and she has alot of similar interests as me. My question is how do I get to know her better? I don't get many opportunities to talk to her, and I pass up too many of the opportunities that I do get since I don't know what to say.

as Robbob put it, be yourself

if you put on a superficial front to 'make him' only like you, what happens when you stop doing whatever you are doing?
my point is, its not you
he should like and accept you for who you are! if he doesn't, forget about him
if he's a guy that wants other girls on the line, then there's nothing you can do, its obviously him who has the problem. you walk away and let him loose the best thing that could ever happen to him

I try to be myself, but obviously its not enough. I'm not one of those girls who talks to all these different guys, you know? I just want him and only him. He's all I want. Why can't a guy appreciate that? He knows this. I'm devastated. I can't eat or sleep right and he doesn't even care. I feel stupid. Because of being myself, I let him hurt me. I'm hurt and I can't get over this. He's all I want. I have to make him want only me. He needs to see. I can't let him go.

You're obviously waaay too attached to him. He doesn't seem to care about you, and he's probably an asshole (just seems to be the way you are describing him). You know this about him, so forget about him. You don't have to dump your feelings all at once as that's nearly impossible to do, but avoid him and don't bother trying to talk to him or getting to know him. He's obviously not showing any respect for the fact that you like him, and he's just not interested. If I'm wrong and he's actually a nice guy, then the only different advice I'd give is to get to know him if he actually likes you. That doesn't seem to be what it sounds like though.

You can't make someone love you.

I always find that the guys I'm not attracted to at first or interested in become really good boyfriends. When you have a crush on someone, you tend to only see certain aspects about them and cannot see the inside. Maybe this guy really is not someone you'd be compatible with. YOu're just so absorbed with the thought of him you don't have time to look at other guys.

walk around naked. that will get his attention!

It works for me, except I only seem to get the attention of cops. Whats with that?

Ok, now I sound crazy....we were talking and everything was going well and now I don't know what's going on. I really really like him. He didn't give us a chance to get to know each other. I don't understand. I'm not ugly.

Ok, as I see it you have two options, 1> Just go up to him, have a chat and then if all is going well, ask him out, or 2> forget him (well, try, believe me I know how hard it can be sometimes) try to find somebody else, somebody nice that you can talk to.

I'm confused. I told him if he didnt want us to talk anymore, then just tell me. I told him this. So he knows what to do. He says he's been busy and he wasnt trying to ignore me. He's lying. He was always busy before, but he still called me. I know he talks to other girls. I know it. He knows he's the only one I talk to. So he doesn't really call as much and it drives me crazy that he thinks he can do that, you know? I'm no one's back-up girl. I gave him a choice. This isn't making any sense.

so just forget about him then

Listen to Amanda on this one. Sadly, it sounds like he's either blowing you off, or trying to keep you around as a 'backup gal'. :frowning:

It doesn't make any sense because love doesn't make sense. It just happens. When a guy falls in love with you, you're closest to perfection to him as anyone ever will be.

I'm not one of those girls who was out in the streets and needs to be with a lot of guys. Never have been. All I ever wanted since I was little was to give my love to one person and love him for the rest of my life. Should I forget about that and take what I can get for right now? I mean it would be hard to have a serious relationship since we both are far from each other. I guess I should talk to other guys as well so I won't be so attached to him. Maybe after all of this, he'll come around....

Look we've given you advice. One minute you say you don't want to put up with him anymore and the next it's changed. Do what you want to do. If you want to be with him then be with him, if you don't then don't. This is just ridiculous now.

In reply to: When a guy falls in love with you, you're closest to perfection to him as anyone ever will be. this is a FACT

I've come to realize that relationships at a young age are not serious. There's no way you're going to settle down now, only like 1 out of 50 people meet their soul mates early in their life. Like websexinfo said, a guy will fall for a girl that is perfect to him, and maybe he just doesn't see you two clicking in any way. I'm the same way, I like to be serious with one person...but not all people are like that, so over time I've adjusted to being an individual and not relying on one person's affection or attention. Maybe he likes having several girls around, he enjoys the attention. And he obviously knows he has yours. I wouldn't waste my time with someone that has no interest in you, or lies for that matter. Sure you think he's the perfect one for you, but you also don't know what else is out there, and you're not willing to look. It's definitely hard waiting, but if you're not thinking about it, love will come and hit you when you're least expecting it.

That makes sense. You're right. I don't need this in my life. If he comes around or not, so be it. I really do like him but I guess its not meant to be. If somethings happens. I'll let you know...