Okay so I've been kinda seeing a guy that I work with. We've kept it pretty much under wraps and away from the work place etc. etc. You know all the things you're supposed to do when you're dating someone you work with..just being professional. It started Tuesday when I woke him up at 8:30 in the morning. Yeah, I know..that wasn't the smartest thing to do. But I really needed someone to talk to in a very bad way. He got upset of course and I said I'd call him that night and maybe we could hang out or something. He said okay but then when I called him he said that he was going out with a friend who came from out of town (which I understand) but then he yelled at me. We haven't talked since then and I haven't made an attempt to call him since that night. He's a really nice guy and everything but I dunno...sometimes he seems like he's little too laid back and go with the flow. What should I do? Confront him about? Do nothing? I'm at a loss.
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He's acting strange...
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Do this. If you really like this guy, you need to ask him where you both stand to see if you're both on the same page. Put the ball in his court. Hopefully, he has the common courtesy to tell you what's up with the truth. If he gives you the runaround, then you need to move on. I had to learn that the hard way. I really liked this guy, thought everything was going good until he went back to school and pretty much stopped calling. I called him and put the ball in his court. He's giving me the runaround as we speak, so I'm trying to get over him. That's pretty much all we can do...
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Well I would say call him, but I am not to sure. Guys are all strange
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Helms, of course I'm not sleeping with him! lol I know dating in the workplace is unwise but he just came across as a really nice guy so I thought why not? It's not like I have anything else to lose.I suppose it's possible that his friend is female but he said it was a guy. And we're just dating so it's not like I don't expect that he's going to see other people besides me since we never said it was exclusive or anything (which is exactly why I'm not sleeping with him...lol). So as far as the relationship up to this point we're just seeing each other but we're free to see other people. And that's pretty much all I expect at this point. I'm just trying to be realistic. Could there be more to it that what I think? Not really. Because at this point I don't expect much except that he does what he says he's going to do which is exactly what I expect from friends and anyone else I hang around. Maybe I'm not expecting enough? I'm just trying a different approach to this whole dating thing. And up 'til now, with him, it's pretty much worked. He offers information freely and willingly without me having to push him for information. And that's how it's supposed to work isn't it? And basically I just let him do what he wants because I don't have any control over him anyway. But in the same respect if we heave plans then I kind of expect that he follows through with them. Who knows? Maybe he had plans with his friend before I woke him up and pissed him off? I dunno. Knowing myself the way I do, and knowing that I'm skeptical of everyone and everything and their intentions I might be jumping to conclusions a little too soon. so, I will take your advice and ride out the storm and see what happens.
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8:30 isn't all that early to call someone you're seeing. I wouldn't call an acquaintance that early but someone you're intimate with is not the same. If you really need to talk calling at 4:00am shouldn't be a problem.
And if he's being an A$$ he isn't "a really nice guy". He's an A$$.
Don't call him. Move on. Find someone that's a nice guy all the time, not just when it suits him. -
Kay...latest news...I saw him at work yesterday and I was talking with one of my team leads about our "zone". And more specifically my zone in A-block because I had health and beauty, makeup, market, and diapers, etc (and it takes FOR-EVER). Well he was working the electronics boat right next to A-block so I was just being kind and courteous and when he looked at me I said, "hi." And he replied, "hi. Long Time. No call." And I thought to myself, "HUH?" So I apologized for pissing him and he apologized for yelling at me. So everything's cool right? Well what the hell was that comment all about? "Hi. Long time. No call." I'm utterly confused. Guys are worse than females. They can't just say what's on their mind. They beat around the bush until we drag it out 'em.
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Guys do that shit on purpose. He knows you haven't called him because you thought he was mad at you. He probably said that so you would't confront him or nag him.
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GUILT TRIP!!
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Two Words....In reply to: Poster: massgravegrlSubject: Re: He's acting strange...GUILT TRIP!!
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I agree so I'm gonna let him prove me "wrong" since he swears it isn't. You guys got any ideas how I just be the worst possible person without being a completely awful brat? Calling is a one way street now. We used to call each other and return phone calls. Now, I let him call and if he misses me I don't return the phone and I make him call again. He does it a lot not. Four times in one day is somewhat of a record. And it's my cell phone he calls. He's got to know I ALWAYS have it with me. lmao No one can be that oblivious especially since that phone grows out of my ear. I'm always on it! Anyway the phone thing is working. When I'm at work I make him start conversations. And he usually knows when I'm working (oddly enough) and he makes it a point to come say hi before he leaves. So I need some more ideas. That whole want what you can't have works. Hmph...go figure.