I have had my boyfriend for a year and a half now.(around 19 1/2 months if you want to be exact).He's 18 and I'm 17. We plan on getting married right after college. We also plan on living together during college.(we're going to the same college)I couldn't imagine being with someone else besides him for the rest of my life. I know alot of people probably think this is stupid becuase we're "too young" to know what we want. And most people probably can't relate to this or understand why we would make this decision unless they have been through this themselves. He is my first love and also the best boyfriend I have ever had. We've been through a lot together which has made our relationship even stronger.I want to hear peoples opinions/thoughts on young marriage..(we wont technically be getting married when we're young..probably around 23) but also teenagers planning on getting married.
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Marrying Young
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I have been with the same girl for two year on Feb. 20. I don't see us getting married. I used to, but then we just lost it. I'm not trying to scare you. I do believe some people can fall in love and make it last. But you do know statistics say young marriages won't last. I guess it all depends on the relationship and how strong it is. Sometimes when I am with my girlfriend I don't want to be anywhere else, but lately she hasn't been my main focus. Just make sure you know what you want. I told her I don't want to talk about marriage, because life hasn't even started. I am only 17 and she is my highschool sweetheart. Things can change right before your eyes. But every story is different.
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My bf and I are both 19 and have been together for just over 17 months. We plan on getting married some day and live together now. Living together before marriage will be a big step and you'll learn a lot of quirks about the other person...some you won't mind and some you'll hate! I always get the talk from my mom about how we'll change as we get older. But the way I see it, if you love the person you're with and enjoy your time with them, shouldn't you change together and be closer, not grow apart? If this is what you and your bf want, then go for it! Don't let anyone else hold you back and tell you it won't work.
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I dunno. Your plans sound really great...but I'm always skeptical of marriage, especially at a young age. Being young people are still going through their changes...trying to find themselves. If you two marry soon, who is to say you won't decide soon after that that's not what you really want? I think it's cool to just stay together without a legal bond weighing down on the relationship. If it's meant to be it's meant to be, ya know?
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I had a boyfriend too and we thought we'd get married, and we were going to the same college. The thing is...once you get in college you completely change. There's so many more opportunities and sometimes people grow apart. Maybe you guys won't, but worrying about marriage right now is really pointless. You're not even in college yet.
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agreed with amanda.why worry about such a thing when it is so far away??come back in 2-3 years and tell us is you're still together what does marriage even mean in this world today?statistically speaking, you're expected to divorce in some countries"til death due us part," -yeah right!!
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I fully believe ANY two people can get married and have a good happy relationship IF they are BOTH people are committed to the marriage. I don't think age matters. Even old people can be immature. lol
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I don't really know if some of you didn't fully read my post or what but I don't plan on getting married until AFTER college..which I will be around 23. I think I didn't explain my post the right way.. I meant more of I wanted to hear about the thoughts on living together before marriage,teenagers getting married(which i have gotten alot of opinions on..even though most were negative, so thanks)..just in general if any of you have stories of you and your husband/wife that have been together since your teens..i dont mean to sound rude to any of you who replied saying stuff like teenage marriages wont last, i dont know what I want...if i go to ANY website i can read the same thing..im asking on here for peoples ideas mainly on trying the living together first or any suggestions they would have to test the relationship. Thanks to all of you who have replied..i'll try to be clearer in my future posts.
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I know a 38 year old lady who was with her husband since she was 16, they got married when they were 18. she has 2 kids and they all couldn't be happier. i hope you and you boyfriend can be happy together for that long anf longer, that's how i hope it is for my boyfriend too. we are in a similar situation. me and my bf have talked about living together, not too much though, we will be going to the same college though.
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My sister got engaged when she was 18. She stayed engaged for 7 years and then got married. You would think that 7 years of engagement is like being married. When she did get married, a year later her husband felt that he didn't experience enough before he got married. He's conflicted because my sister is one of those girls that guys drool over because of personality and looks yet he wants to experience and be with other people. They're getting a divorce soon.
Yes, with the right personality types people can stay together from teenage years to old. But even personalities change.
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I was in a realtionship for a long time and me and my ex-boyfriend were planning on getting married. We were going to move to Michigan (where hes originally from) after I graduated high school and we were both going to go to the same college. We had all these big plans, but they changed. I'm not saying yours will, but there is always that possiblity. We broke up, he wasn't ready to get married, and it hurt so bad because we had made all these plans for 'our future' together (we even had our children's name picked out lol). It hurt really bad because I truly believed that we would always be together. But now that I lool back and think about it, it was for the best because I wasn't ready either. We just weren't mature enough for that step. I'm not saying that this will happen to you, I'm just sharing my experince. I really think you guys have a chance, and I say you should run with it ^^ When do you guys start college? I agree with you wanting to live with him before marriage, I mean how else are you going to know if you can stand sharing space with the same guy everyday. You'll learn all of his habbits (both good and annoying), and I think it can really prep you for marriage. You're both still young and this will give you guys a chance to grow together. I wish you the best of luck ^^ PS> Whats with all the statistics? My parents got married at a young age (plus they only dated for 2 weeks, maybe even less which means they barely knew each other) and everyone said they wouldn't last. They were in love and that's all that mattered to them. They'll be together for 25 yrs this September.
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He's starts college this coming fall and i'll be going the following spring (i'll be graduating in december). I hate all of the statistics too. I've read so many things and looked at so many websites and they make it seem like if you're not over 40 then you have no idea what the hell you're talking about or want. We both are actually really mature for how young we may seem(17&18)..i've been basically raising myself since i was around 13..(parent troubles)..i was the one taking care of the house/helping with getting the bills done..and he has a loving family that will encourage us no matter what decision we make. We both have our futures planned/careers planned out. and Congratulations to your parents and thanks for replying :laughing:
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"We both have our futures planned/careers planned out."
Every high school student has that figured out...then this thing called life happens. Seriously things change dramtically once you get out of high school and into college. I had my future planned, marriage, career, everything. None of what I predicted back in high school is happening right now. I'm not trying to be negative by this, I just thought I'd point that out.
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I met my husband at 15 and just knew I wanted to be with him forever. We grew up together and we both supported each others decisions and respected each other. We moved in together at 16 and got married when I was 21. I am not saying it is always easy as it hasn't been plain sailing the past couple of years but I still love him as much, if not more than I did 15 years ago (I am an oap of 30 now!!) We are lucky that we both realise that we had ambitions and worked together to achieve them and now we have two beautiful children and good careers, well, he has, I am still working on mine!!lol. We have both changed as people especially from when I was younger but we have been able to do that as a partnership so if you both work together then I do not see a reason why it cannot work and I wish you all the luck in the world xx
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I believe in marryiing young. I'm in the same boat as you. I plan on marrying after college but its particularly hard for us cause I go to school 3000 miles away. We figure if we survive a 4 year long distance relationship we could go through everything else together. The thing is you should be open minded and not put all your hopes that you will be marrying this guy. You got to keep your eyes open for other guys that peak you interest. Your still young and you might need to check out other guys and go to parties without him but if you keep on going back to him because you love him and love being with him. Then congratulations. But if its cause you want to get married and have all those dreams, you might need to take a break cause your more into the future then the person your with.