Girl truble

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i have truble getting girls to like me intamitly and also asking girls out. i can get a girl to like me as a friend but i cannot seem to ask them out. i dont know why but i have always been like this. plz respond if you have any advice.

how old are you?

turning 13 soon

I had the same problem for a long time. It's gets easier as you get older. The easiest thing to do is to establish right off the bat whether or not a girl would be interested in you as a friend or differently.

dude intimacy at 13 will just bring you problems. Grow up a little bit.

not like sex intamacy just like dating. i mean i had a gf but when i asked her out i hadent slept for a couple days so it was easy

well thats also a problem because i cant always tell if a girl is interested in me. can someone give me tips on how to find out. plz respond

Is it a problem of being too shy, somekid? That's very common.

What I meant by establish was to ask.

i guess i am shy but it really sucks

o but thats the problem dont know how to ask them one reason is that most the other kids my age havent compleatly matured or somthing but they are just perverts and its hard to ask someone around them but it could also be that i am just shy and if it is that i need to find a way to overcome this shyness

Having such a conversation in an intelligent manner does require some maturity. Perhaps you could ask in a time that you two are hanging out together and your buddies aren't around.I too was beyond my years and such a concept as dating (dating as in going out places without the title of bf/gf) was a mystery to my friends.... and they were 16 at the time.

even without the pervs its just hard for me to ask a girl. and i mean im not that bad looking and i am the strongest kid in my grade so im in shape but still

I think most guys find it hard, because it's so important, and you have so little control.Try to remember that there aren't any "magic words". You don't have to be suave and perfect - it's much better to be yourself. Real life is about imperfection.

I agree with Ineligible, just be yourself. You are only 13, it's not like you are going to be young forever. If you want something go after it. You don't want to be old and be like, I wish I would have done this or done that. Just be yourself and realize you have nothing to lose. Believe me, maturity plays a great deal in anything being relationships or just everyday life. Your buddies who talk of nothing but getting laid, have probably never been laid. You all are young, you will learn many things about people in the next few years. Make it a learning, growning experience. Be social, not just with girls, with everyone. Have fun in school. I wish I would have known as much as I do now then when I was 13.

In reply to:I wish I would have known as much as I do now then when I was 13. Don't we all, dmo, don't we all.

In reply to:I agree with Ineligible, just be yourself. You are only 13, it's not like you are going to be young forever. If you want something go after it. You don't want to be old and be like, I wish I would have done this or done that. Just be yourself and realize you have nothing to lose. Believe me, maturity plays a great deal in anything being relationships or just everyday life. Your buddies who talk of nothing but getting laid, have probably never been laid. You all are young, you will learn many things about people in the next few years. Make it a learning, growning experience. Be social, not just with girls, with everyone. Have fun in school. I wish I would have known as much as I do now then when I was 13. im just saying that most them are not my buddies and these are the kind of kids who like grab a girls breast and then run away. or the people who stick tenis rackets between their legs and pretend that they are their dicks then run up to a girl and poke her in the but. these kids are hard core perverts

this is for the girls. if you like a guy do you show any signs of this? if so what would some of these be :confused:

Well, I'm not a girl, but if they stay near you it's a good sign. If they talk to you a lot (about anything) that's a good sign too. They may see you only as a friend, but I think it's easy for us guys to think a girl likes us as a friend only, when it's really something more. (At any rate I made that mistake at least once.)Girls often mistake the signals from guys, too. Sometimes if a guy says nothing they think he's not interested, when really he's too gooey-eyed and tongue-tied to speak.

My advice to you is as simple as this:Your fear of asking girls out has everything to do with a lack of confidence. You, like I have often been, are probably afraid not so much of rejection, but of ruining your relationship with the girl altogether, and making her think you're a loser. So set your mind like this. Whenever you go into a situation with one of these girls where you could ask her out, realize that if you are inconfident or uncomfortable, the girl will notice it probably before you do. So go into every situation with the mindset that you belong there, and that she wants you to be there, and when it comes time to ask, ask with confidence. Don't be discouraged if she says no, because if you get irritated, THAT is what will ruin the relationship. This is what has worked for me in the past. One more thing, whatever you do, do not ask her out in a note, or in any form of written word for that matter. Girls may think it's cute, I dunno, but a first date before you have actually really spoken to a girl has got to be one of the most awkward moments I have ever experienced. Just remember, have confidence. Hope this helps.