I really dont know why I'm posting, I dont have any questions, and there isn't any advice that could help me. Both my parents are heavy smokers. They both smoke a carton a week. I've lost 2 aunts to cancer, 1 uncle, and another just got diagnosed yesterday. God, I understand that it is an addiction and all, but what greater motivation is there to quit than death?! I just get so mad sometimes! I've been inhaling second hand smoke for almost 21 years While my organs were in their developmental stages, I was taking in all that shit. It makes me so sad, thinking that one of my parents will be the next ones in the family to find out they have cancer. ...or maybe I'll be next?
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I'm so sad....stupid cancer
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This post is really long,(probably boring too) and I dont blame you if you dont read all of it. Just typing how I feel is theraputic for me....Although I'm sorry to hear that you're going through the same thing, I have to admit that its comforting to know that somebody else feels the way I do. My mom has been smoking since her early teens(she's 50 now) and so has my dad(he's 54 now). My mom tried to quit, but when my grandmother passed away she basically gave up. My father is so ignorant...he says shit like "people who dont smoke can still die from cancer, heart disease, etc" or "Mr. such-and-such smoked for 65 years and died of natural causes" He really pisses me off sometimes. I try my hardest to stay away from them when they smoke, but it seems like as soon as one of them puts one out, the other lights one up....Its kinda funny, I too wonder what my lungs look like, I know they cant possibly be pink anymore, probably just as tar covered as a heavy smoker.I used to literally beg them to stop smoking. I remember when I was younger I would throw their cigarettes away, or hide them. After gettin the shit beat outta me I started preaching the dangers of smoking whenever they smoked. I would get so frustrated because no matter how hard I tried, they would keep smoking. Now that I'm older I just try to isolate myself from them. I find that whenever we eat dinner together I must leave the room as soon as I finish eating because they both light up...It gets lonely sometimes. I spend most of my time at home up in my room.I live at home with my parents. When I first started college I moved about 4 hours away from home. Whenever I came home to visit and got back to my dorm, I smelled just like smoke. I guess I was so used to the smell at home that I became unaware of it. I moved back home last semester and transfered to a local college to save money. I'm trying to find a decent paying job so that I can move out soon. Their smoking is a really big deal to me, to the point that I'm willing to struggle on my own rather than stay here- but I just hope its not too little too late
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Wow, guys. I feel like Im butting in or something, but thanx. I am a mom who smokes. YES I know about cancer, and how bad it smells, and all of that, but it is SOOOOOO hard to quit. I did it while I was pregnant and nursing,(quit I mean) the 1st time was for 3 years. But for some reason, sick sick sick reason, you just feel like you need it!I am killing myself I know that, but I at least have the respect for the rest of my family to take it outside. I guess though that it is news to me that my kiddos could be SO worried about me...how very sad I feel now for them...Oh ya, as a MOM, I do know why your parents forbade you to not smoke....Its ugly, stinky, addicting, gross, and can kill ya...wish my parents woulda beat the hell outta me when I started.But thanks for adding a new reason to my list of reasons to quit!!!
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My grandma died of emphyzema. My dad quit smoking for a while when that happened and then a few months later he started back up again. My mom can have some pretty bad asthma problems, especially with smoke and pet dander. When her asthma got really bad my dad started chewing. Now, he smokes a few a day outside and chews tobacco inside the house. I've tried to convince my dad to stop smoking, but he's stubborn and just plain tells me no. I've accepted that he knows what he's doing and to let him live the way he wants. I don't know if this is the right thing to do, but for now I'll just leave it at that.
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There's nothing much else you can do, websex. We can change our own lives, but we can't force other people to do it.