What is the best way to get a girlfreind?

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What is the best way to get a girlfriend? I'm 17 and never really had a gf. I was asked by a good friend once but I turned her down because I didn't think I was ready for dating. I not looking for someone to have sex with, more just a female companion. In a way I kind of don't want to date because what if she wanted to have sex with me. I'm still a virgin, (never even seen a girl naked in the flesh) so the whole thing of sex kinda scares me. I guess you could say I don't have the courage to have sex.
Now at my school there are so many hot girls who I know are single but somehow I don't think that they would date me because I don't think I'm of their caliber. These girls always seem to travel in packs with their other hot friends, so I don't seem to want to walk into the middle of them and make a fool of myself.
I guess what I'm looking for is a good way to make friends with one of these girls and then maybe ask her out. That brings up another good question, how does someone go about asking a girl out, and once they do what kind of things do they do together?
I'm a total newb when it comes to this type of thing so any input would be helpful. I will throw in a picture of my self so you can kinda see how I look and judge if you think I got a shot at it.

Thanks, Zero

Rule number two - Don't smile too much!

so i take it you figured by the pic that i dont like to smile. claps you got me there. but i do smile, just dont like to for pics.

Right well first off, i'm 17 as well but from reading what you said, me and you are completley different people but i'll give it my best shot to help. In reply to: In a way I kind of don’t want to date because what if she wanted to have sex with me. Just because you are dating someone doesn't mean that you will have sex with them or have sex within a short time of dating. If a girl you were dating wanted to have sex with you, if you don't feel ready, then tell her that you aren't. Chances are the girl would prefer to wait and, speaking from experience, would rather wait for the guy to make the first move. In reply to: the whole thing of sex kinda scares me. I guess you could say I don’t have the courage to have sex. I'm willing to bet everyone was scared about having sex for the first time, so it's not a problem. If you don't feel ready, then you don't feel ready - fair enough. But you need to have confidence in yourself. In reply to: I don’t think that they would date me because I don’t think I’m of their caliber. These girls always seem to travel in packs with their other hot friends, so I don’t seem to want to walk into the middle of them and make a fool of myself. What you need here is to have a bit more confidence in yourself. Just walk up to this girl and introduce yourself if you have not met before. Get to know her better, then if you like her, keep talking to her. Gradually in time, (best be patient for these things to work) you'll become closer. Then this will lead to your next question: In reply to: how does someone go about asking a girl out, and once they do what kind of things do they do together? I personally believe that it is best to get to know a girl really well and become close to her, then when you feel ready, you simply just ask her (I know it's easier said than done) But in the end of it all you just need to build up the courage and ask.Once you're going out with a girl, you may think what can you do? But it's simple I go out like into town, or the cinema sometimes, take her out for a meal on occasions, but most days after college she either comes round mine or I go round hers and we cuddle, kiss etc etc. Thing is you don't need to do anything like go out, it's just the fact that you're with them, it's the company that you will enjoy. In might be hard to imagine but you'll understand.Hope this helps.

Hey deadpool, whats with the attitude? Nobody is making fun of you or pissing on your hat or anything... lighten up.

thanks that helps a little

zero

i dont get it, what do you mean bob?

just thought of another question, i have a class ring(as you may have seen in the pic and i also make rings). so my question is would i be ok to ask somone i dont really know that well to were my class ring?

Lol bob give him a break

Class ring?? That's new to me You have to stop worrying, girls like guys to have a bit of confidence in them, you do what you feel's right

Just be your self. Women are supposed to be better at picking up on liars so don't try to copy someone who seems to be successful with the girls.I think you will be better off not thinking about asking a girl for a date because this will put pressure on you and may make you mess the whole think up. Go up and talk to a girl like a mate (you know like you would with a male pal) and see where it goes from there. That way your not under any pressure and you have not committed yourself into something you may not be ready for you yet. Don't be too hard on yourself as well

I see what you mean by getting closer. But how close is close? How do I become “close”. Do I bend completely to her wishes (lol, “bend completely to her wishes” I sound like a bondage freak). When getting “close” what does it take?Zero

By "close", you should get to a point where you can be together, have a good laugh, be able to tell each other things but you can still "notice" other girls. Get to a point where you can get together, but not be together.

DO NOT bend to her every wish, it justs make you seem... fake.

And sorry about earlier, I was just joking. OH god!!! I've turned into Last!!! :frowning:

thanks bob