This girl that I like; I can't stop thinking about her. Now that I'm seeing and talking to her more often than I did over the past few months, I having these constant strong feelings for her again (I still thought about her even when I hadn't seen her for awhile, it just wasn't the only thing on my mind) and everything I think about comes back to her. Just like how I was at the start of the school year when I'd see her nearly every day after school, except stronger. I've been talking to her alot lately, but I reminisce on everything I said that could have come across better and it's driving me crazy. Whether this is little or not, I don't have much control over it, but we both fence (anyone who's followed my pathetic posts before will understand it better) and she was at the competion today. She's currently sick and said she was feeling exausted after her first match. I can't stop thinking about how I should have said something helpful, even though there's no point in worrying about something like that now and I don't know what I would have said. People tend to misunderstand me a lot when I talk to them, and I have to repeat things over in a different way or clarify details before they understand, and I also speak too softly when greeting people or if I have to get their attention.I feel like I'm not as consious or considerate in social situations, with her especially, as I should be. I think it's mostly just a confidence issue, but it's driving me crazy that I want to be there for her if she needs something or to even more of an extent do and say everything perfectly (which is stupid but I can't help feeling this way) and I feel like I can't say anything meaningful or show that I actually care. I want to be a person who's there for her, and who can actually show that I care rather than keeping it inside and not knowing how to express it in a way that would actually be helpful.
-
I can't stop thinking about her
-
does this girl know how you feel about her?you cant change the way you act around her just for her to like you, because it's not really you. you need to realise that she will either like you for who you are, or she wont.
-
I am in the exact same situation!!! Except for the fencing...I have lost sleep over this girl and she just... your post. Well, you're obviously doing something right if she is your friend and you hang out a lot. If she didn't, you wouldn't.
-
We don't really hang out, I just talk with her more than I used to. The only reason that I have this time to talk to her is because we're both in track, which gives time to talk a bit, and then she walks or runs home the same way I do and it's about 40-50 min walk back (it's currently indoor at a fitness center that's some distance away). I wish I was good friends with her because that's not the case, although I definitely feel like I'm getting to know her better. It's encouraging that you think I'm doing something right In response to cool, no I don't think she does know how I feel. I'm so afraid to show it for whatever reason and I talk with her just like I would any other person. That's definitely not how I feel when I talk to her, it's just what I say. I'm also not trying to say that I want to act different around her just to get her to like me, I just want to express myself better than I do and it's because of her that I want to improve that aspect of myself. You can't honestly tell me that there's no room for growth; although you seem to think I just want to act fake around her to get her to like me. I feel more like I'm acting fake now and I want to express how I really feel through my words and actions. That's the way I meant it.
-
i know what you mean about thinking about stuff you could have said better. sometimes after i'm with my girlfriend and she's left, i'll just sit there for ages afterwards analysing a whole conversation, wondering about things she said and what she really meant by them. it's a bitch, but i do it less and less now that we've been together for a while and we're starting to get each other more. I know i say a lot of stupid things, and she'll just laugh at it now. If i could give u any advice, it would just be to try and persist with the small talk and just being yourself, and don't beat yourself up if you can't be mr. witty every time you're around her. If you can get to the point where you're not self concious around her anymore, you've got it made.