A new urge

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'Just face it, you're a hopeless romantic... or just hopeless.'A bouncing souls fan?

Who are bouncing souls? And no, thats not a joke, I seriously don't know.Wow, I just realised that it must be really hard for you guys to know when I'm being serious and joking. Maybe I should set up a signal or something...

Yeah, I hit that stage about a year ago. It kicks in when you get tired of all the BS and/or you get your heart broken. It takes a while for the urges to subside, but eventually they'll dull out. Be yourself, do your own thing, and let them come to you. At first, it's hard not to get to the chase but the longer you do your own thing the easier it gets.

It's hard to relate, I have only had brief relationship gaps and no sexual gaps. Iv'e always had someone to help me out when I was alone or even in a relationship. I don't do that now though. Women like men that are nice, but it's good to have confidence, but not cocky or arrogant. Try approaching women that have more self esteem. You will be surprised when you compliment them, they love that. It's great of you to help women with thier self esteem. It's the once that already have confidence that really reward you back. Good luck.

I've been feeling that way since I was 18 years old, some people mature faster than others. No its not because you are a virgin, it is because you feel the need to be close and have a significant relationship. There is nothing odd about it, trust me. I may not be a virgin but just because you are doesn't mean that you can't feel the need for that love and compasion.

In my experience, those ladies who seek the "bad boy" have yet to reach the stage you, myself and others are in. I tell you this much I am a sweet guy and I've been in that situation where you become best friends and what not. It gets really frusterating doesn't it! But all we can do is stick with it and find the one who we were ment to be with. I give you props for your persiverance and your strong will, not many people like you left out there. Keep being who you are and you will find that right woman.

oh and one more thing, those "girls" you've dated that have been shallow. You may have been able to change a few, but that is rare. It's like a woman trying to change most of the "Bad Boys" out there, it can't be done except on their own time. My adivce to you is seek what you need, not what society deems to be. As far as those tears go, yeah they will show up in your life, all you can do is wipe them away and move on, but there will be somebody out there for you. Hell even I enjoy a good "chick flick" now and then and no we don't get lost in them, we strive for a good relationship that is based on more than just making out and sex and showing off. be proud that you have made the transition into being a REAL man and not one of those people that use and abuse.

Hey,I think it's admirable you're starting to feel the whole package of emotions. One thing though about ending up friends; even with lesbians there is a butch one. You gotta show em you can be a stong man, you know take care of things, and show em you're secure with who you are.That's not my personal attitude, but this is what I've tended to see women attracted to. Personally I hate being anyones show pony Anyway, I hope you find a nice girl who appreciates you for who you are

I belive its normal. We have an instinct to be with a women. The longer you wait, expecially being a virgin, the bigger the urge.

aww hun you'll get someone who deserves you soon, and they'll be so good because you have waited for them... trust me, you just need to find the right woman! It wont take forever

I'll just be glad when all of Walken's finals or whatever is over so he'll start posting more again!