Empty feeling inside..lost everything i once had

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Sorry if this is long but i would really appreciate any advice:

I guess I'll start at the begining. I am a 17, soon to be 18 year old male. I had a very rough childhood. I didn't have many friends, i had real bad acne, i was scrawny, shy, and because off everything, epsecially the acne, i endured much being made fun of. It got so bad that i didn't want to go to school anymore, and during lunch i would stay in the bathroom for the whole 50 min lunch period and hide, instead of going to the cafeteria. I was always called shit like pimple, roudoughl the reindeer (sp?) and countless others names. When it came to girls, some were kind to me but no one was ever interested in me. I sat out during spin the bottle games knowing that i would just be rejected anyway. I became very depressed and hated life, and became extremley shy and lost all confidence in myself.

Freshmen year of high school started, i left most of the people from middle school behind. Even though i was still insecure, i opened up a little, but not much. Eventually to some miracle and witht he help of accutane my acne completly went away, my body took a more desirable form, i cleaned myself up, started taking care of myself. And im still pondering how but i turned out to be one of the best looking guys in my school (i'm not conceded just been told this from random people) I just did a 360 turn and i have to admit i am extremly happy with my physical appearnce.

I recently switched to a new school, i don't know that many people, and i have made a few friends, not a lot, but some.

Now il get to the point, when it comes to meeting new people, making friends, especially with girls, i have no self confidence. My confidence was shattered from all those years that i was harassed, ridiculed, and embarassed, and i never regained it. I am insecure with myself, espcially emotionally. There are exceptions where for some reason i am outgoing, but that is rare, and for the most part i am very shy and intimidated. I have not had a girlfriend in a year (not that girls havnt been interested i am just very picky). I just recently ended a relationship with a girl who i was very interested in, but she just got out of one and didnt wanta bf at the moment, and it left me once again crestfallen...i still think about her sometimes. Its left me feeling empty, and unhappy. i disguise it like i',m ok but im really not. I am to insecure to talk to other girls, i just dont have the confidence. I am not sexually desperate, however i am desperate for a female companion. I just feel like i am very plain, boring personality wise, and my shattered confidence and insecurities prevent me from meeting new people, girls, and "fitting in". My grades suffer becasue of this and i feel very empty inside. My friends all have gf's and are constantly with them, ruling out that aspect of companionship.

I just see all these good looking guys going up to people, both males and girls, joking around with them...having a good time, laughing, going after gf's, getting them, and filled with confidence. I just wish i could be like that. Sorry for the long post

As far as my luck with girls goes, i attract them psycially guess. But that only lasts for a week or so until they realize i have no confidence or personality and then they leave..and i get hurt

hey bud, don't sweat it... I know you probly heard shit like this before, but find out what it is exactly what you want and go for it! you might even go as far as writing it down and sticking it in your room or bathroom somewhere you can see it every morning. when I say go for it I don't mean go and throw yourself out there to where you end up being hurt. take it slow. you know everyday do something that will help you get to where you want to be. if it's a girl you want then find a couple that fit your style and initiate conversation. the best way is metion how nice something they have on is. if all they say is thanx, notice if they smile if they do that will let you know that they don't mind having a casual conversation with you. then you can feel free to try it another time. if they say thanx and spark up a coversation always remember "who, what, when, where, why and how" then ask them a question that pertains to the subject. (girls love to know that your interested in what's going on in their life) keep up the questions. just steer away from personal subjects, and if they mention that you ask alot of questions the just reply that it's always nice to know how someone is doin' (be sure to always smile even when you're not talking to them) now don't be scared or anything and if you mess up in anyway just play it off and say something along the lines of I meant to do that. ( I always use to tell them, "that's just how I impress the ladies. did it work?) just be cute and adorable. don't show off or act like your better than another guy (just know in your head that you are) unless it's sarcastic and your doin' it to get a smile out of her. even if your really good at something and you're doin it (i.e. skating) and she shows up stop what your doin and pay her some attention. unless its like football or some sport your in the middle of. just remember if you can make a girl smile or laugh then you pretty much are in good with them. and never think just cause a girl pays you attention she's interested. cause she will definately let you know (not directly) that she's interested just take it slow and find out who you are so you can just be yourself around everyone. remember be confident. not cocky.

thanks man i appreciate that

It sounds to me like u r a very mature 17yr.old..which is a good thing. It prolly seems like it isnt now but when u get older and the girls u r after r mature as well they will want sum1 like u..maybe not rite now bcuz at 17 girls just want to have fun and dont want much commitment but they will grow out of that and trust me they will b all over u bcuz u will b the husband type( a very good quality)..try not to rush things and i would suggest u try to go for the more quiet girls bcuz most likely they r the kind that want sum1 to luv jus as much as u do and want it to last. And u never know they might jus have a freak-ah-leek side also..lol. Just never change to try to impress sum1 else bcuz later u will b happy and in luv and others will look up to u.

The loss of confidence you get from bullying and teasing takes a very long time to heal. Perhaps it never fully heals - there's always a bit of a scar -; but it will get better, slowly.Don't compare yourself with other people. First, you can't do it accurately. You see other people from the outside and you see yourself from the inside. Those people who look so confident - that's not how they feel inside. They feel less than confident, but they try not to show it and hope they don't.In any case, other people are other people and you are you. Your life is not the same as anyone else's, because you are not the same - but you are just as worthy.

man we must be twins. I went through the same thing. I am currently 19, and am 6 months from being 20. You just gotta keep going, and keep your chin up. I stayed strong (metally) and kept my head up and now in college I have some really strong friends, and very strong relationships with girls as friend. Just keep going, everything works itself out, but it takes time. Just PM me if you have any Q's.

when i was in grade school i used to get tease cause i was over weight and what not now i'm 20 250 pounds 6'2 ande can bench 450 cause ass them ppl tease me it made me want to strive to be better first it was to show them but then i found out i was realy doing it for myself and beleive me alot of things change in a year or two

I was the fat, greasy kid in junior high. This too shall come to pass. Croix is giving some pick-up (and sales) tips but you need to look deeper than that.Confidence is the best aphodesiac. Women go for confident men and men go for confident women.Now, being the old fart that I am, I can go on for hours about how to "pick up chicks" but the secret to a greate relationship is easy communication and common interests!Good luck buddy, hold yer head up

yeah croix your a dumb ass! get your hand off my girlfriends cloaca!