I just sent a pm to someone, and the thought crossed my mind.For all of you who got out of a REALLY bad relationship or marriage, do you find it harder to break up with future "dates" because they are better than the REALLY bad one.OR do you find it easier, because you don't want ANY of the crap that you used to deal with, no matter how minor???I find it harder. Especially if it has lasted more than 3 months or so.
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Is it easier or harder...
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I find it harder too. But if you don't break it off you end up 3 years later...stuck.
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I find it a lot easier. Once I was out of that bad situation I promised myself that I wouldn't settle for anything less than I deserve. Its like I wouldn't take any crap from any guy after I got out of that relationship.
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I find it easier also. I have higher standerds now because of it, and a much better understanding of who I am really looking for. I have evan gone so far as to ask (within a few dates) if there is anything they can't stand or wont put up with, and inturn I tell them mine. :scream_cat:
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What if it is just something annoying, like say, they twitch their feet, but it totally drives you nuts. Are you more forgiving? or less? ( know that wasn't the point of the first question) I just know that when I meet someone and they have a habit like that. I have no prob dumping them then...but when it gets to be months out and Ive seen nothing like that, I can almost end up in abuse again? What could make me that way? Old "Comforts" if you will?
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I sounds like just being more cautious on who you date. Not tring to get hurt again. right?? Nothing wrong with that as long as you are not just tring really hard to find something wrong, if you look hard enough you will always find something. Thats being paranoid.
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Well sorta, but I would rather (really) have a guy with a twitchy foot than a guy who gets violent...but a few months down the road is when the junk STARTS comming out, and it is the time invested that makes it harder for me to dump them...True of anyone else?