HELP I have nooooo friends

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HelloI've been depressed for a while, maybe for a few years, im 20 now. Since coming to college I have not made any friends. I have people that I hang out with here and there, but nothing more than that. I don't know what has changed of me, I used to have a lot of friends, but I went through some events that made me hard to trust people. Now I can't really get a long with people because of my attitude. I try to change but I don't really know how to make new friends now since I haven't been social for a while. If you can give me some pointers on where I should start it would be really helpful. Thanks

What is it about your attitude that puts people off?

Are you under a doctor's care? Taking anitdepressants?I'd strongly suggest counseling. It's a good way to understand your personal issues.And everyone has issues.

i had a problim like that in middle school first i transfered but it still followed me then once in highschool i said screw this started wearin tha kinda clothes i liked to wear anddidnt give a damn now i have quite a few good buddies

most of the time it is just dropping all the false pretenses and being who you really are. i stopped caring what people thought of me and my appearance and soon i got tons of people i can truely call my friends b/c they like me for me rather than the clothes taht looks like everybody else's. i dont know if this advice helps but its here on the table.

Heyin my case its not that i care so much what people think of me, but its hard for me to trust ANYONE, thats my biggest problem, i dont think i ever can nor ever want to trust anyone...i know not everyone is a snitch but those are the type of people who are around me, and seems to be the only type of people who are ever interested in me...maybe i have an aura that just attracts them to me, who knows. ive tried engaging with regular college classmates but it doesnt work out theyre too different. it sux

If your worried about the snitch thing, maybe you should drop what your doing that makes you worry about snitches. True friends are not going to be snitchy, but depends I guess on what they are worried about with you. It is hard to trust, if you yourself has something to hide, and are being sneaky yourself.

Your situation sounds very similar to mine. I am only 21 and I have lived a life of lies which makes it hard for me to trust also. I moved to South Florida about a year and a half ago and to this day I do not have a single friend. Like you, it seemed as if I attracted the most grimmy people in town,so I basically stop socializing with people. When i finally sat down and thought about all of my friendships that falled i actually so a pattern in my behavior towards people i consider my "friends". I gave way to much of myself way to soon and when people saw that they took advantage. When I do decide to become social again i know not to be to NICE to soon so that I can give myself time to actually observe that person and to see what their true intention are.Believe me there are always tell tell signs of someones intentions, it's just that often time we CHOOSE to ignore them, but I made a promise to myself to talk less and listen more. I hope my advice was of some help to you.

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Well nothing is going to happen if dont change, what you said, your bad attitude and you have to start trusting people. What is their not to trust?