How Do I Know If She Likes Me?

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This is a toughy. There's this girl at work that I really like, but I don't know if she likes me back. Sometimes we make eye contact, and when we talk, which until recently, she's always smiling and lets down her hair. Until recently, we had a good conversation, and she was telling me her hobbies and stuff, and we found out that we're into the same thing. She gave me some chocolate and invited me to come along with her friends sometime to eat. Then she also said that she was seeing someone, but then all of a sudden, she said she really wasn't, and acted like she was unsure. She almost never sees him, I guess it must be a distance thing since I think he lives far away. It'd almost lead me to believe that she was seeing him, but is still looking. Maybe she's seeing him, but is ready to end it or just isn't serious. I'm not really sure.After hearing first that she was seeing someone, I said to myself that my chances were all over. I don't want to be a jerk, and step into a relationship. However, the way she said it, I'm not sure what to think. Maybe it's all in my head and I should just let it be and back away. I'm just thinking that if she wasn't at all 100% interested, she could've just lied and said it was serious, but she didn't. Maybe she's telling the truth, and is genuinenly that nice and sincere to everyone, but just doesn't like me... I just don't know. If I were to never see her again, then yeah, I would talk to her about this eventually. If she said no, then I would never see her again and we both wouldn't feel anxiety when we saw each other. However, I do work with her, and it would be weird every day I saw her. What do you guys think I should do? Should I talk to her more and perhaps ask her out to eat or an event sometime? Or should I just back off in case she's really serious about her relationship? Thanks guys.

Why not ask her, "Would you like to have dinner with me, if it wouldn't be cheating on someone else?"

Yeah! dont worry man... go soft and gentle. Invite her to have dinner, take a ride, or go to somewere with your friends. And maybe you will see in time if she gives you hints. Good Luck!

Good advice, I might say. Thanks. I'm just a little bit uneasy thinking that she might take it the wrong away in case her relationship is serious. I mean, she did at least, tell me that she's seeing someone, but the seriousness is the question. I don't want her to think that I'm trying to move in, while I know this. Damn, this is tough... hehe.

I guess inviting her with a group of people doesn't sound too shabby. I'll try that. Any other advice or takes on this subject is gladly appreciated! =)

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Turn your brain off and go for it!!! She is trying to make you jealous. She is looking for confidence, be the man She gave you chocolate! She wants you to meet her friends! She actually talks to you! What more do you want?Girls always make up a situation such as lets going drinking with my friends. What do think happens after you get drunk?It sounds like you missed the "situation" by not going out with her friends. So bring up the subject again and let her suggest it again. Remember all girls are looking for two things:- confidence- and they need to hear the phase "i care about you" or they will start playing games like trying to make you jealous Don't try asking her out though it will blow up in your face, let her set up the friends thing or whatever it might be. Girls will never let you take them out on the first date even if they like you because.... ? its just the way it is, let her set it up and then jump all over it.

Thanks for the advice! Well, as it turned out, someone at work arranged a company party at a club this Thursday. My friend told her about it, and I said, "yeah, you should come!" as I was right there. She said yeap.

Anywho, we'll see what happens. Gak... Dammit, the fact that she's seeing someone, even though it seems not serious, really makes me feel kinda guilty. I guess all I can do now is be friends.

you could also try to flirt and maybe she will like you better then the one shes seeing

I was in a similiar situation sometime and a wise man once told me. Alls fair in love and war. It's not like she's married. Definetly go for it man. Here's one method. Tell her you'll give her a ride home. Drive out to a distant place and say, "PUT OUT, OR GET OUT!" it works everytime. hahahaha

It went pretty well I might say. We were close almost the entire night talking. Also, I found out she broke up her relationship. I'll just take things slow and ask her out sometime. I don't want to rush into things. I guess it's just me, but I think she's just very nice to everyone in general, and not giving me any special attention. In any case, I'll ask her out in due time.